jglide123
Don Juan
Ever been out in public somewhere (bookstore, mall, bar, etc.), spotted an attractive woman, approached/ opened successfully, and then minutes later her male friend/ boyfriend shows up?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Talking to a Woman When Her Boyfriend Appears....
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
corrector
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But yourself on the bf's shoes (if you had a relationship before or when you had a relationship on your AFC/beta days, etc....). He's going to feel jealous or threatened if his girl is flirting and enjoying herself with another guy especially if he's insecure about her or has jealousy issues. Maybe she enjoyed the interaction too much that it felt like emotional infidelity to the sensitive bf. You don't know how much money or time he invested on her to see it all evaporate as she falls in love with a stranger in the middle of nowhere...so in a state of panic he came towards both of you.
If this happens to me then I chum up with the bf and talk with him too. Maybe he's a loner and needs to talk anyway. If you keep the mind-set that you are talking to people and are having a great time socializing then you wouldn't care who comes up. The fact you are out there talking to people is great since you just never know where it may go and not everyone obviously will have a bf.
As long as she enjoyed the interaction to the point a bf felt threatened by it then it's a successful flirt and should be a stroke to the ego you riled someone up, lol! Was she a hb 7+? Then double stroke to the ego!
If this happens to me then I chum up with the bf and talk with him too. Maybe he's a loner and needs to talk anyway. If you keep the mind-set that you are talking to people and are having a great time socializing then you wouldn't care who comes up. The fact you are out there talking to people is great since you just never know where it may go and not everyone obviously will have a bf.
As long as she enjoyed the interaction to the point a bf felt threatened by it then it's a successful flirt and should be a stroke to the ego you riled someone up, lol! Was she a hb 7+? Then double stroke to the ego!
jglide123
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That's a good point Corrector; having the proper mind-set is key. I totally get the reason why a boyfriend with interrupt. I guess I just get frustrated when I'm having a great interaction with a woman, and someone comes along and interferes/blocks.
insomniac9
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i've had a similar situation happen, i'll make a detailed post about in my gym girls thread.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
This is why you need that friendly "buffer" before you lay your number grab. If the BF shows up, you continue, unphased, even talk to him to for a minute, say thank you, or just bye, and you split. If she were single you number grab. If not, you're just a curious, friendly dude strikin up a clean convo.