"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Talking to a girl you like

becker

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I have a tip here that I'm going to implement more now than I have before, mainly because I just realized that I've been doing this for quite some time, it's just that I haven't really been conscious of it.

Basically, you know how you are normally very comfortable talking/flirting etc. with a girl who you know is taken, maybe like your friends' GF or something? Well, I've noticed that I don't hold anything back when I talk to these girls, and am pretty loose and the conversation flows.

Well, if that's the way it is for you, then a good way to approach women in general is to treat them all as though they're taken, and just talk to them as though you're flirting with a girl with a BF or something, where you have nothing to lose. It puts you in the right frame of mind, where you aren't afraid to screw up (cause she's "taken", so who cares). It will help with being sort of indifferent. I actually practiced this a few days ago with 2 different girls, who were GFs of friends who I hung out with for the first time. They ate it up, and I was able to talk without any inhibitions or any concern that I may say something offensive or stupid, because I didn't care what a girl with a BF thought about me, she was taken anyways.

Get the picture? Just a good mental exercise.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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DJ_Dork

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Talk to all women the same way in social situations.
 
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