"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Talking to a girl with 100% interest

Quiksilver

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Hey, I need to know the best way to talk to a girl who totally wants me to fvck her, without making her feel like a *****.

the backstory: I asked this girl out last year, and she flaked. I don't know whether I was just too unattractive back then, or she was too immature, the point is I asked her out and she bailed. I stopped talking to her altogether, and essentially Next'ed her.

the lead-up: Back in september 06, I was single. I guess her friends told her about me or something, but she started getting all chatty and stuff..You know? Like, she goes to a school like 50 miles away, and she starts talking to me even though I was only an acquaintance even when I asked her out.

Now: So I just broke up with my girlfriend yesterday. I had it listed on facebook and everything that we were dating for awhile, and I took it off when we broke up. The girl that flaked on me actually tried adding my gf on facebook, so I knew there was some interest still. Like, if you were interested in a girl who you knew was going out with somebody, would you try to get to know him?
Anyways, so I broke up with my gf, and today she sends me a txt: "Heyyy its been soo long since ive seen you! Hows it goin?"

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That tells the story basically, and it isn't too hard to see what she's really "saying".

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she's comin back out here in about two weeks, and I wouldn't mind tappin that. I know she wants it, but usually when I talk to a girl about relationships, it's pretty direct and absolute. I don't beat around the bush, more of a direct approach. I just don't want to make this girl feel like a slut by asking when she's coming back and if she wants to "hang out". If anybody has any ideas for a smooth reply or something less direct to make her feel more comfortable, that would be cool.

Any advice?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Rock_Solid

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Quiksilver said:
I just don't want to make this girl feel like a slut by asking when she's coming back and if she wants to "hang out".
Wait...how is asking her to "hang out" making her feel like a slut? That's pretty much how i ask out any girl, it's a very casual way of asking for a date that almost always gets a yes. Trust me, if she's interested in you she will jump at the chance to "hang out".

Also, a little tip for when you go out with her. Don't use a whole lot of C&F on her and don't be too "cool" about it, it will make her feel like you only want her to get laid. It's definitely ok to use some C&F though, just don't overdue it.
 

The Shocker

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Just tell her it's nice to hear from her and that you'd love to meet up with her when she comes to town.

Then wrap it up and be ready, Sarge.
 

oteao99

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Rock_Solid said:
Wait...how is asking her to "hang out" making her feel like a slut? That's pretty much how i ask out any girl, it's a very casual way of asking for a date that almost always gets a yes. Trust me, if she's interested in you she will jump at the chance to "hang out".

Also, a little tip for when you go out with her. Don't use a whole lot of C&F on her and don't be too "cool" about it, it will make her feel like you only want her to get laid. It's definitely ok to use some C&F though, just don't overdue it.
whazts C&F, also what is kino?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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SIDEBOARD

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C&F - ****y and Funny = It's like being an insult comic dude.

Kino - Touching or Skin contact

(I cant put any words to describe them wel but I know how to use 'em)
 
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