"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Talking about yourself

Gammergq

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Maybe this is where I have been going wrong with girls and in conversations with people in general. You see I am am the perfect listener I like to get to know people get them to open up but I dont like to talk about myself that much I feel it could come across self absurbed. Should I use the talk about myself or should I stick to my old game?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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ChrizZ

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according to Juggler talking about yourself is crucial to make others comfortable. You have to talk in the "I" perspective in order to get other people to open up to you. Furthermore you have to describe the emotions you felt and ask lots of open ended questions. It is also important that there has to be an equal energy shift between the two persons talking. Meaning that you start out with 90% of the talking and let her do 10% of the talking. However after she opens up to you it is 50/50. It's also important to make lots of statements and only ask big questions (e.g.: "So what's your life story?" etc.)


Example:

I love Paris. I like the people there, they made me feel like I had known them forever because they were so friendly. Have you ever met people like that? ...

hope that helps.
 

ready123

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when you talk about yourself, don't make the mistake of bragging

DO open up though and share the occassional thing that makes you feel somewhat vulnerable. that's what Juggler was trying to get at. it makes you appear more "real" as a person, on top of that makes her comfortable
 
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