You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
I remember. Good times yo!I did once and it was a major mistake.
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Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Words of wisdom. Hats off to you.I look at Sosuave as a philosophy, something a life coach might teach. I really do believe that if more men acted like 'MEN' at least my country (the USA) would be a better place. As far as getting women, heck I'm not a fool I know that is why most guys come here, but it really is more than just that. It is a recognition that when you act like a man, women just come to you through serendipity.
Women are game players... therefor they ALWAYS assume you are playing game with THEM. When you don't act like society says you should, AND a woman feels attracted to you, her automatic assumption is that you are working some kind of magic on her. It's not, it's just you being the very best you can be and acting like a natural man.
Many in the US everyone is absolute befuddled by Donald Trump, he gets on TV and says some pretty outrageous stuff. He doesn't try to hide that fact that he has billions, in fact he goes around an brags about it. He lives his life, says what he wants, and he isn't going to let anyone tell him how to live his life. The politically correct mainstream hates the guy, many Republicans say if he wins the GOP nomination, they will vote for Hillary.
Trump is just AMOGing the entire field, people like him because he is authentic... this works with women as well. Too many guys are afraid of pi$$ing off women, when the truth is that she will be MUCH more attracted to you if you stay on purpose, and don't give into her. If she says something you don't agree with, challenge her on it, don't just sit there and nod your head hoping that you can 'nice' the clothes off her.
There are no techniques here other than be the best you can and be yourself, always strive for what you want, and always go after what you want. But recognize what is possible and what is impossible, and allow reality to drive your agenda.
The PUA stuff is played out... that sh!t only works on really young or really stupid women.
I agree, people like him because he refuses to just say the right thing to make people comfortable, like he is supposed to, and everyone else does . Only thing is, and I haven't seen any statistics to back this up, I have a feeling that most of his strong supporters are probably white males. I don't imagine he has much chance of actually getting elected.Trump is just AMOGing the entire field, people like him because he is authentic..
First, don't get me wrong... I am NOT a Trump supporter, truth is that I am so turned off by American politics I honestly do not care a lick who becomes President... I am however concerned anytime one party in the US controls all of Government... typically when that happens logic, reason, and common sense goes out the window... and you get stupid wars that should not be fought, no oversight of financial markets, bond markets, and securities... along with a meltdown of our fiscal and monetary system... Not to turn this political, but I do want to answer this assumption. You are correct, women are breaking for Clinton something like 52-38%, Men break for Trump 48-42% but a strange thing happens when women are responding anonymously. There is a 6% shift to support of Trump, they still go with Clinton, but it's only 49-41%, which mirror's men... in anonymous polling men shift to Trump as well, but it's only 3% 49-40%.I agree, people like him because he refuses to just say the right thing to make people comfortable, like he is supposed to, and everyone else does . Only thing is, and I haven't seen any statistics to back this up, I have a feeling that most of his strong supporters are probably white males. I don't imagine he has much chance of actually getting elected.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Uhh... what? Literally have 0 desire to do that.A dang shame you guys can't tell your women about the resources you're using to attract them.
Good post. This is what you need to know. In many aspects of life, game-playing will not take you further, and this applies to girls and dating as well.I look at Sosuave as a philosophy, something a life coach might teach. I really do believe that if more men acted like 'MEN' at least my country (the USA) would be a better place. As far as getting women, heck I'm not a fool I know that is why most guys come here, but it really is more than just that. It is a recognition that when you act like a man, women just come to you through serendipity.
Women are game players... therefor they ALWAYS assume you are playing game with THEM. When you don't act like society says you should, AND a woman feels attracted to you, her automatic assumption is that you are working some kind of magic on her. It's not, it's just you being the very best you can be and acting like a natural man.
Many in the US everyone is absolute befuddled by Donald Trump, he gets on TV and says some pretty outrageous stuff. He doesn't try to hide that fact that he has billions, in fact he goes around an brags about it. He lives his life, says what he wants, and he isn't going to let anyone tell him how to live his life. The politically correct mainstream hates the guy, many Republicans say if he wins the GOP nomination, they will vote for Hillary.
Trump is just AMOGing the entire field, people like him because he is authentic... this works with women as well. Too many guys are afraid of pi$$ing off women, when the truth is that she will be MUCH more attracted to you if you stay on purpose, and don't give into her. If she says something you don't agree with, challenge her on it, don't just sit there and nod your head hoping that you can 'nice' the clothes off her.
There are no techniques here other than be the best you can and be yourself, always strive for what you want, and always go after what you want. But recognize what is possible and what is impossible, and allow reality to drive your agenda.
The PUA stuff is played out... that sh!t only works on really young or really stupid women.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I believe if you are a true alpha, you won't need to be on top of your game. Game is really for normal guys to mimic the real alphas.Mike that's a very frank view. If not quite saddening.
AGREE 100% that being a DJ isn't about being an assh*le or a scumbag who uses their skills to the detriment of others. ALWAYS conduct yourself with integrity and don't be a cheat.
I think in the end you can find a 8/9 and date them in a LTR but it requires you to be ON top of your game constantly. That means as Corey Wayne says- constantly subconsciously reading interest levels and adjusting your behaviour.
If I'm honest- 97% of men do not have the mental stamina to be constantly vigilant and adjust.