Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I remember. Good times yo!I did once and it was a major mistake.
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You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Words of wisdom. Hats off to you.I look at Sosuave as a philosophy, something a life coach might teach. I really do believe that if more men acted like 'MEN' at least my country (the USA) would be a better place. As far as getting women, heck I'm not a fool I know that is why most guys come here, but it really is more than just that. It is a recognition that when you act like a man, women just come to you through serendipity.
Women are game players... therefor they ALWAYS assume you are playing game with THEM. When you don't act like society says you should, AND a woman feels attracted to you, her automatic assumption is that you are working some kind of magic on her. It's not, it's just you being the very best you can be and acting like a natural man.
Many in the US everyone is absolute befuddled by Donald Trump, he gets on TV and says some pretty outrageous stuff. He doesn't try to hide that fact that he has billions, in fact he goes around an brags about it. He lives his life, says what he wants, and he isn't going to let anyone tell him how to live his life. The politically correct mainstream hates the guy, many Republicans say if he wins the GOP nomination, they will vote for Hillary.
Trump is just AMOGing the entire field, people like him because he is authentic... this works with women as well. Too many guys are afraid of pi$$ing off women, when the truth is that she will be MUCH more attracted to you if you stay on purpose, and don't give into her. If she says something you don't agree with, challenge her on it, don't just sit there and nod your head hoping that you can 'nice' the clothes off her.
There are no techniques here other than be the best you can and be yourself, always strive for what you want, and always go after what you want. But recognize what is possible and what is impossible, and allow reality to drive your agenda.
The PUA stuff is played out... that sh!t only works on really young or really stupid women.
I agree, people like him because he refuses to just say the right thing to make people comfortable, like he is supposed to, and everyone else does . Only thing is, and I haven't seen any statistics to back this up, I have a feeling that most of his strong supporters are probably white males. I don't imagine he has much chance of actually getting elected.Trump is just AMOGing the entire field, people like him because he is authentic..
First, don't get me wrong... I am NOT a Trump supporter, truth is that I am so turned off by American politics I honestly do not care a lick who becomes President... I am however concerned anytime one party in the US controls all of Government... typically when that happens logic, reason, and common sense goes out the window... and you get stupid wars that should not be fought, no oversight of financial markets, bond markets, and securities... along with a meltdown of our fiscal and monetary system... Not to turn this political, but I do want to answer this assumption. You are correct, women are breaking for Clinton something like 52-38%, Men break for Trump 48-42% but a strange thing happens when women are responding anonymously. There is a 6% shift to support of Trump, they still go with Clinton, but it's only 49-41%, which mirror's men... in anonymous polling men shift to Trump as well, but it's only 3% 49-40%.I agree, people like him because he refuses to just say the right thing to make people comfortable, like he is supposed to, and everyone else does . Only thing is, and I haven't seen any statistics to back this up, I have a feeling that most of his strong supporters are probably white males. I don't imagine he has much chance of actually getting elected.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Uhh... what? Literally have 0 desire to do that.A dang shame you guys can't tell your women about the resources you're using to attract them.
Good post. This is what you need to know. In many aspects of life, game-playing will not take you further, and this applies to girls and dating as well.I look at Sosuave as a philosophy, something a life coach might teach. I really do believe that if more men acted like 'MEN' at least my country (the USA) would be a better place. As far as getting women, heck I'm not a fool I know that is why most guys come here, but it really is more than just that. It is a recognition that when you act like a man, women just come to you through serendipity.
Women are game players... therefor they ALWAYS assume you are playing game with THEM. When you don't act like society says you should, AND a woman feels attracted to you, her automatic assumption is that you are working some kind of magic on her. It's not, it's just you being the very best you can be and acting like a natural man.
Many in the US everyone is absolute befuddled by Donald Trump, he gets on TV and says some pretty outrageous stuff. He doesn't try to hide that fact that he has billions, in fact he goes around an brags about it. He lives his life, says what he wants, and he isn't going to let anyone tell him how to live his life. The politically correct mainstream hates the guy, many Republicans say if he wins the GOP nomination, they will vote for Hillary.
Trump is just AMOGing the entire field, people like him because he is authentic... this works with women as well. Too many guys are afraid of pi$$ing off women, when the truth is that she will be MUCH more attracted to you if you stay on purpose, and don't give into her. If she says something you don't agree with, challenge her on it, don't just sit there and nod your head hoping that you can 'nice' the clothes off her.
There are no techniques here other than be the best you can and be yourself, always strive for what you want, and always go after what you want. But recognize what is possible and what is impossible, and allow reality to drive your agenda.
The PUA stuff is played out... that sh!t only works on really young or really stupid women.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I believe if you are a true alpha, you won't need to be on top of your game. Game is really for normal guys to mimic the real alphas.Mike that's a very frank view. If not quite saddening.
AGREE 100% that being a DJ isn't about being an assh*le or a scumbag who uses their skills to the detriment of others. ALWAYS conduct yourself with integrity and don't be a cheat.
I think in the end you can find a 8/9 and date them in a LTR but it requires you to be ON top of your game constantly. That means as Corey Wayne says- constantly subconsciously reading interest levels and adjusting your behaviour.
If I'm honest- 97% of men do not have the mental stamina to be constantly vigilant and adjust.