"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Talkin to a girl amongst a group of girls?

LonelyGuy2k4

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I've been taking some interest for this one girl who I see in my classes from time to time. I wouldn't mind starting up a convo and what not, but she is usually surrounded by her friends. So, I was wondering how I could just talk to her and how to talk to girls who aren't alone in general? Or atleast get their attention to single them out or something.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I think about this sometimes.

First of all, approaching a girl amongst her friends already makes you way cool.

The Bible gives all sorts of tips like walking up and saying things like, "Excuse me, ladies, but can I borrow her for a second?" and point to the one you're interested in, but I find that would sound really dumb in situations outside of ones where gaming is expected (like clubs).

If you can think of a plausible reason to get her away from her friends, then go for it ("Hey, I want to show you something I thought you'd like," but then you have to show her something, and it can't be your schlong). Otherwise, just walk up and interact with the group, but make sure you 1.) maintain your presence as a man (don't be around when they're talking about their periods or something) and 2.) project non-verbally which one you're really interested in. Look for eye contact often, especially when she isn't talking. Talk more to her than to the group. See if you can discreetly get her number, and only her number.

I hate it when people giving advice don't get specific enough, so just ask if this is too vague.
 

LonelyGuy2k4

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Thanks a lot dude. Nah, it's spot on. I just needed a few pointers on how to deal with these situations.
 

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Originally posted by Arioch
I think about this sometimes.

First of all, approaching a girl amongst her friends already makes you way cool.

The Bible gives all sorts of tips like walking up and saying things like, "Excuse me, ladies, but can I borrow her for a second?" and point to the one you're interested in, but I find that would sound really dumb in situations outside of ones where gaming is expected (like clubs).

If you can think of a plausible reason to get her away from her friends, then go for it ("Hey, I want to show you something I thought you'd like," but then you have to show her something, and it can't be your schlong).
why not ?
 
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