"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Remulak

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So I've been dating this girl now for a month and a half, we're both into each other and it may develop into a LTR. She has made afew references saying "I don't want you talking to other girls" basically is it save to ask to be exclusive or wait? Her friend has asked pulled me to the side a couple times now and said something along the lines "she reallys likes you, how are things going? you're not going to break her heart are you?" I was wondering what the ******** was
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Remulak

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Listen im inexperienced with this stuff, don't mock me....the last girl i dated i fycked up with cause i came on too strong and my last g/f was 4 years ago
 

Remulak

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can you answer my question about asking to be exclusive, i don't post here much and i would appreciate an honest answer. I know the guy isn't supposed to ask but she drops hints about not talking to other girls. I would really like to make this official because I have feelings for her.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Why go exclusive when you are already dating her? I think that that's exclusive in itself.

If you think this might turn into a LTR, then let it happen. The key words are 'LONG-TERM', so don't worry your little head about exclusiveness, just keep on motoring.
 

milrenkb

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Docs said:
Why go exclusive when you are already dating her? I think that that's exclusive in itself.

If you think this might turn into a LTR, then let it happen. The key words are 'LONG-TERM', so don't worry your little head about exclusiveness, just keep on motoring.
I second that. This is definately a case where you should go with the flow.
 
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