"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Taking up all opportunities whether shes good or average looking....

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I don't take up on a lot of EC's for this reason....

When I see a hot girl giving me EC, I am there asap...

when I see an average -okay girl giving me EC, i am lazy don't approach with effort...

thats understandable...but I am thinking for a Newbie like me i should lower my standards a bit so that at least I get some play ...

hey pzzy is puzzy ..why do y0u need to aim for perfection so much....at least your having some thing ?

rather than waiting for a super hot chick....so I am thinking of a actually starting to approach these lower standard chicks..

they aren't ugly or ...they are just average / 6-8 HB....but for me I am the type who used to only get intersted enough to approach a girl if she HB 9+ or HB 10..

I am basically talking about forcing to approach every opportunity..good looking or bad who cares at least I am not alone...and maybe one day I will get a super HB

what are you feelings on that....?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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SuperChillies said:
I don't take up on a lot of EC's for this reason....

When I see a hot girl giving me EC, I am there asap...

when I see an average -okay girl giving me EC, i am lazy don't approach with effort...

thats understandable...but I am thinking for a Newbie like me i should lower my standards a bit so that at least I get some play ...

hey pzzy is puzzy ..why do y0u need to aim for perfection so much....at least your having some thing ?

rather than waiting for a super hot chick....so I am thinking of a actually starting to approach these lower standard chicks..

they aren't ugly or ...they are just average / 6-8 HB....but for me I am the type who used to only get intersted enough to approach a girl if she HB 9+ or HB 10..

I am basically talking about forcing to approach every opportunity..good looking or bad who cares at least I am not alone...and maybe one day I will get a super HB

what are you feelings on that....?
Only problem is.....If things go wrong...ie...pregnancy or std....You COMPLETELY wasted your time. Not only did you mess with a girl you weren't attracted to ... but you got screwed over as well. Just something to think about before you lower your standards.
In summary: DON'T LOWER YOUR STANDARDS. Don't approach women you aren't attracted to. It wastes everybody's time.
 

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rakishness said:
Only problem is.....If things go wrong...ie...pregnancy or std....You COMPLETELY wasted your time. Not only did you mess with a girl you weren't attracted to ... but you got screwed over as well. Just something to think about before you lower your standards.
In summary: DON'T LOWER YOUR STANDARDS. Don't approach women you aren't attracted to. It wastes everybody's time.
I think you missed the point.

First, he didn't say he's going to have sex with UGs or anything, just that he'll approach them.

Second, he's not saying he'll lower his standards per se--the girls are still "attractive" to him. It's just that instead of only approaching the "holy crap she's so hot" girls, he'll also approach the "hey, that girl's pretty cute" girls. They are still attractive, they're just not SHBs.

Third, while I see your point about not approaching women you're not attracted to, I think it has a certain value for "training." Instead of crashing and burning with hot women, one can work his way up to those hot women by starting with average/less attractive ones.
 

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Fred Da Head said:
I think you missed the point.

First, he didn't say he's going to have sex with UGs or anything, just that he'll approach them.

Second, he's not saying he'll lower his standards per se--the girls are still "attractive" to him. It's just that instead of only approaching the "holy crap she's so hot" girls, he'll also approach the "hey, that girl's pretty cute" girls. They are still attractive, they're just not SHBs.

Third, while I see your point about not approaching women you're not attracted to, I think it has a certain value for "training." Instead of crashing and burning with hot women, one can work his way up to those hot women by starting with average/less attractive ones.

thanks fred , work on these girls now and work my way up to the HB, the thing is I am Brown so I tend to only attractive other Brown or black girls..hehe guess thats not so bad. I am like the king of the brown people though...
 
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