"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Taking this physical (neighbor hits me up on myspace?!)

Circa

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It's kind of funny, because I just got done promising myself I would never date a younger chick. Mainly freshman. I just recently broke up with a freshman (I'm a junior) because she was too stupid and immature for me.

But anyway.. I should probably rewind a little. Not too long ago, a friend of mine told me her sister said that I was hott. She suppousedly lived next door to me. I could recall seeing her a few times, but I knew she was extremely young (in 8th grade, I'm in 11th :\) plus I didn't think she was that good looking (even though I never got a good luck at her). Then one day I am outside skating.. and this gorgeous girl starts walking down the street.. beautiful black hair.. nice ass, decent tits.. and completely my style. And what do you know? it's my neighbor! I couldn't pass it up, so I went up to her and started talking to her. I opened with "hey, you're so and so's sister right?" and we started talking, and I asked for her name and then she went on her way and I continued skating. nothing really happened after that.

then just recently she added me on myspace. and we started talking. i started negging her a little bit. we dont talk everyday, but we talk every other day or so. sometimes she initiates it, sometimes i do. we seem to have fun talking to each other.. but. i find the whole situation really awkward. this girl is my next door neighbor.. i mean seriously.. lives RIGHT NEXT DOOR. you can probably see the benefits... but also the disadvantages of it as well... im not sure how i should go about this. i kind of want to hang out with her... but like... just going over there one day that would be really weird.. lol like inviting myself. and inviting her over would be kinda weird too? and also the fact of even asking for her number seems weird to me... like why ask for your neighbors number? i dont understand. lol. im thinking the next time i am doing something even if it is with a group of friends i could invite her along. especially if her sister is gonna be there, so she wont feel as akward about it? or is this a bad idea? i don't want ot get stuck in the "friend zone" but she seems kind of interested right now... but im not sure how I should escalate this.. maybe I am just being too scared? or maybe i am just afraid of the fact she is soo young... but I am pretty confused right now.

what would you guys do?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Michele l'Arcangelo

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man not everyones that lucky.

why not just plan something with your friends... then during the day, walk over to her house and ask if she wants to tag along.

well try walking by her window and hope shes naked... and get a camera... and running shoes... take some pictures... run like hell... then upload here.
 

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Does she know you live next door?, If so GET OFF that wack My Space site and knock on her door and ask her if she would like go out for coffee or whatever, when you meet people on My Space you create a fantasy in your head about that person but if she is next door you don't need too... go and see her, either it works or it doesn't..at least you tried.
 

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LOL coffee? 8th graders DO NOT drink coffee...lol Invite her to Chucky Cheese's and she would be thrilled..lol. I'm serious.
 

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ryannath said:
LOL coffee? 8th graders DO NOT drink coffee...lol Invite her to Chucky Cheese's and she would be thrilled..lol. I'm serious.

I forgot about the 8th Grader thing... I thought kids drink coffee when they are young.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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