Ok well, been dating quite a few women lately, and have it narrowed down to 2 that I like, and one other possible prospect.
For the record I'm not just looking for a quick lay, had plenty of that these past couple months and am more interested in finding something more, and settling down with one qualifed for me.
So I've been going out with this chick from Venezuela for the last couple weeks. We've gone out 3 times, and still have yet to get physical at all.
I'm just not used to this. Had plenty of first date kiss closes, hell have even had first date f<ck closes.
The problem is I just sense her being heavily guarded up. She has told me she has been single for the last 6 years and went through a ltr that ended baddly that obvioulsy messed her up. Also due to her being a foreigner here and what not she is very insecure.
So I've yet to make any advances on her cause I just can't seem to gauge if she wants to go there or not. I know the interest is there otherwise she wouldn't want to keep seeing me, and after our first date she texted me asking what I thought of her, and told me she thinks I'm a "good fun guy, and definitely wants to get to know me more."
I definitely feel a strong physical attraction towards her as she has the exotic look I'm into, and a nice body, and since she is taking things so slowly I'm more inclined to see potential in her as I would never want to be in a relationship with a chick that f's on the first date, she does that with you she's doing with everyone. We also have a lot in common hobby wise.
So, my question is should I just keep going at her pace and wait for a sign, or should I just man up and make a move? This has nothing to do with me being nervous or afraid as I've been there and done that with this kind of thing tons of times, it is just simply not seeing any sign in her of wanting it due to her insecurity and the guard she is holding up for whatever reason.
Normally I wouldn't care and would just escalate anyway and cut my losses if it didn't go anywhere, but I am actually interested in this one, which is the only reason I've been a bit hesitant.
Advice appreciated fellas...
For the record I'm not just looking for a quick lay, had plenty of that these past couple months and am more interested in finding something more, and settling down with one qualifed for me.
So I've been going out with this chick from Venezuela for the last couple weeks. We've gone out 3 times, and still have yet to get physical at all.
I'm just not used to this. Had plenty of first date kiss closes, hell have even had first date f<ck closes.
The problem is I just sense her being heavily guarded up. She has told me she has been single for the last 6 years and went through a ltr that ended baddly that obvioulsy messed her up. Also due to her being a foreigner here and what not she is very insecure.
So I've yet to make any advances on her cause I just can't seem to gauge if she wants to go there or not. I know the interest is there otherwise she wouldn't want to keep seeing me, and after our first date she texted me asking what I thought of her, and told me she thinks I'm a "good fun guy, and definitely wants to get to know me more."
I definitely feel a strong physical attraction towards her as she has the exotic look I'm into, and a nice body, and since she is taking things so slowly I'm more inclined to see potential in her as I would never want to be in a relationship with a chick that f's on the first date, she does that with you she's doing with everyone. We also have a lot in common hobby wise.
So, my question is should I just keep going at her pace and wait for a sign, or should I just man up and make a move? This has nothing to do with me being nervous or afraid as I've been there and done that with this kind of thing tons of times, it is just simply not seeing any sign in her of wanting it due to her insecurity and the guard she is holding up for whatever reason.
Normally I wouldn't care and would just escalate anyway and cut my losses if it didn't go anywhere, but I am actually interested in this one, which is the only reason I've been a bit hesitant.
Advice appreciated fellas...