"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Theres this girl that I've known through work for about 3 years or so, and recently we've really started to get to know each other a lot better. It turns out we have a lot in common. I like her, and I'm pretty sure she likes me. We've been hanging out every weekend for the past 3 weeks or so, she calles me everyday, and we're sometimes on the phone for 2 hours, and I could definitely see myself dating this person. Now I should probably just make a move and try to kiss her when the time feels right (and there has been a couple of opportunities that I chose not to take advantage of), but I'm curious if that really is the way to go about it. I'm not exactly the most experienced with relationships, so basically I'm just looking for some advice on how to take this from the friend stage to the boyfriend/girlfriend stage, cuase I think we're both ready for it, and I think shes waiting on me to make the move.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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You are in the friendzone.

Make yourself less available.
No more phone calls, unless it's to arrange a meeting, in person.
Next time you see her, kiss her. Just do it. DO IT.

You are spending WAY TOO MUCH TIME with this girl. She may think you have nothing better to do. Which is not attractive.
 
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I wouldn't recommend dating some1 who works close to you, All my experiences have been bad when it comes to dating some1 @ work.
 
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Wait, dont' kiss her. This love you experiencing is platonic.


Closing is simple, you meet a girl, you show her that you want to fvck her, you game her, and then you fvck her. If you talk to her for 3 years that shows her you want a friend.


There is no going back, keep her as a friend.


If you want you can confirm this with yourself. Next time you talk to her, come closer, look in her eyes for a few seconds, and ask "Would you like to kiss me?" If she's not sure, say let's find out and kiss her, just a bit on her lips, and no tongue. If she says no then she just gave you a favor by shooting down you twisted AFC reality, just tell her "I didn't say you could hun, I just thought you had something on your mind."


Move on to other women.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I think this type of Platonic love is best for marriages...

In, this is the only kind of LOVE I know. All other stuff is just lust. The person never becomes special...
 
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Lil bit of an update. About a month or so after I posted this, we kissed. It started with a sweet exhilirating kiss and it turned into a 4 hour make out session. Since then we've hooked up about 6 or 7 times and now we're together, but not officially going out b/c she doesnt want a relationship. However, we still hook up all the time and talk as if we are going out. So we'll see what happens. I'm continuing to play it cool. Thanks for the help guys, but this time it looks like the nice guy isnt gonna finish last.
 
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