"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Taking a 35k paycut Leaving Los Angeles for Miami

captain55

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The business I’m in I can easily work from home but I know I make 2-3k month a more month going into an office because I get more leads ...so I would probably be making 20-30k a year less working from home if I left realistically.

I get it sosuave is about bettering yourself and making as much money as possible, but to stay in a city I’ve been in my whole life and to to throw my 20’s away for an extra 2-3k a month isn’t that beta in itself? This is not life changing money we are talking about.



For the record I am 27. I’m young, single and good looking and My life is pretty good I’m meeting new girls every weekend. But I feel like something is missing. I’m Getting a bit too comfortable here and I would like a change.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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If it scares you and excites you at the same time, then you must do it
 

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It's not always about self-avoidance. There's something to be said for a change of scenery. I was sick and tired of NYC and wanted to move. For a few years I thought the problem WAS me, and did x,y,z to improve the inner self, which I'm always doing anyway, but I did so with the conscious effort of avoiding what I really wanted: to live somewhere else. Last year I finally relocated and although it's not a panacea, it made a huge difference in my life. Granted I think it was a combination of things being easier (quality of life/preferences) and things being harder (new challenges).

That's just me though, and I can't tell from the OP whether he's suffering self-avoidance or not...he could be. Just dropping in my $.02.

And @captain55 I completely quit my job and lived off savings for months. Now I'm making half of what I made before, but where I live now the cost of living is low. I think if you can pay your rent/mortgage with approximately one week's pay, you're doing okay. So I'm "poorer" financially but richer in terms of lifestyle, happiness, and experience.

Though I don't see much difference between LA and Miami, lol. Humidity? Better Cuban food?
Brother I have been to New York City many times and other than the fact that most of the hottest women (the top of the top models) are hidden and rarely go out...(only to exclusive events/parties) I think it is the best place to be for a single Guy. Getting laid in New York City is much easier than la or even Miami for me.

Other than the weather I think it’s the best city in the world. Miami has the best beaches and women imo. Cheap nice real estate (compared to la or manhattan anyway)

Where did you relocate too? Just curious
 

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The business I’m in I can easily work from home but I know I make 2-3k month a more month going into an office because I get more leads ...so I would probably be making 20-30k a year less working from home if I left realistically.

I get it sosuave is about bettering yourself and making as much money as possible, but to stay in a city I’ve been in my whole life and to to throw my 20’s away for an extra 2-3k a month isn’t that beta in itself? This is not life changing money we are talking about.



For the record I am 27. I’m young, single and good looking and My life is pretty good I’m meeting new girls every weekend. But I feel like something is missing. I’m Getting a bit too comfortable here and I would like a change.
Between LA and Miami you have to factor cost of living. Doesnt Florida have zero state tax?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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taiyuu_otoko

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For the record I am 27. I’m young, single and good looking and My life is pretty good I’m meeting new girls every weekend. But I feel like something is missing. I’m Getting a bit too comfortable here and I would like a change.
People tend to make drastic changes for two reasons.

To get away from something negative.

To get closer to something positive.

So long as you don't end up smuggling cocaine or something, and you'll use the extra down time productively, (wort at home vs an office) then it's a net positive.
 

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The business I’m in I can easily work from home but I know I make 2-3k month a more month going into an office because I get more leads ...so I would probably be making 20-30k a year less working from home if I left realistically.

I get it sosuave is about bettering yourself and making as much money as possible, but to stay in a city I’ve been in my whole life and to to throw my 20’s away for an extra 2-3k a month isn’t that beta in itself? This is not life changing money we are talking about.



For the record I am 27. I’m young, single and good looking and My life is pretty good I’m meeting new girls every weekend. But I feel like something is missing. I’m Getting a bit too comfortable here and I would like a change.
Take into consideration housing/rent is likely significantly cheaper in Miami
 
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There are calculators on the net that compare the cost of living between different cities. Some go into a good bit of detail.
 

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Brother I have been to New York City many times and other than the fact that most of the hottest women (the top of the top models) are hidden and rarely go out...(only to exclusive events/parties) I think it is the best place to be for a single Guy. Getting laid in New York City is much easier than la or even Miami for me.

Other than the weather I think it’s the best city in the world. Miami has the best beaches and women imo. Cheap nice real estate (compared to la or manhattan anyway)

Where did you relocate too? Just curious
What's your background? Curious at to why anybody would livr in LA or nyc. Liberal hell hole. I agree with you on the attraction level. I've toured America. I have had some fun in miami. Just need to avoid lady boys and hiv thrn you're ok lol.

Any regrets on the decline in income?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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