"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Take your time.

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Take your time.

Take time to think of the right word.
Take time to come up with the right way to say something.
Take time giving a handshake.
Take time giving eye contact.
Take time giving a hug, kiss.

Calmly, take some seconds more.

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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Originally posted by SamePendo
Take time to think of the right word.
Take time to come up with the right way to say something.
uh...heck no?

yeah, i'd agree with GGTW here.

SP, your other tips are pretty good, but imo everyone should...

Take time and forget the above tip...don't think of the "right" word or canned material...you're not trying to impress her...she's gotta impress you...that's the way it works

...i'm afraid this tip would give newbies the wrong idea...heck, all new afcs should read http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=80007

and sure, take time on your approaches...kino, hug, and kiss, whatever, but don't overanalyze stuff...live the moment for what it is
 

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Re: Re: Take your time.

Originally posted by h2o
uh...heck no?

yeah, i'd agree with GGTW here.

SP, your other tips are pretty good, but imo everyone should...

Take time and forget the above tip...don't think of the "right" word or canned material...you're not trying to impress her...she's gotta impress you...that's the way it works

...i'm afraid this tip would give newbies the wrong idea...heck, all new afcs should read http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=80007

and sure, take time on your approaches...kino, hug, and kiss, whatever, but don't overanalyze stuff...live the moment for what it is
I have to emphasize that you should do this calmly. Don't try this if you are still afraid of women. This is to show that, precisely, you aren't afraid.

Let's say, you don't remember the right word for the... moon roof (the kind of roof in cars that you can see through)... don't go too strong to say... "oh well.. the thingy that's dark in cars"... take your time, be calm.

Don't try this if you are still afraid of women.

Instead of giving people (mostly men) quick handshakes, give them a strong one, that lasts one second more.
 
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