how's everyone at sosuave.com? =p nothin much just stoppin by to get a lil knowledge from all the masters here on this site...i'm in california now if anybody knows my history...i came from new york...i had no choice but to move with my family who wanted to live in cali cuz i didn't want to get a job and my own apartment in new york, start my own life and not finish school...i have a girlfriend in new york which is driving me crazy right now cuz i met a girl here in cali...a coworker who i can't really figure out all that much yet...i told my girlfriend about her and she's loosing trust in me yet i know how much she's crazy for me...i hate it cuz me and my girl have a really good thing goin on...it's one of those type that you think will last forever cuz you two are just chill together...we talk for hours everyday...say i love you and all that...talk about the future and just damn good for each other...but my coworker...she is gettin on me...i'm not goin to lie...this girl is hot...i mean hot...ugh man...sides shiftin right now...i'm startin not really to fall for her but the fact that my girl isn't with me makes it easier for her to infiltrate me you know what i mean?...it's really hard right now...my girl is always cryin every night...i always got some crazy shlt to tell her about the girl at work that's just nightmare for her and it's hard for me that i'm always hurting her...like today...my girl doesn't know about this yet...but this girl at my job after work went to the restroom...changed and put on a really tight shorts...and asked me if i wanted to ride with her...i did...i couldn't resist...we had a good talk...got to know each other a lil bit...i didn't ask for a number, aim, myspace or any of that...just said thanks and went on my way...i'm really feelin this chick right now...it's funny though cuz as hot as she is i really didn't get that butterfly like i don't know what to say or shlt anymore...thanks to this website i guess...yup i'm a recovering afc right now...i don't know what to do...ugh...i know i shouldn't be thinkin negatively about everythin but i'm a lil worried that if i go for this chick which i'm starting to feel that she wanna get with me...i don't know cuz i didn't ask if she has a boyfriend or w/e...just tryin to be strictly friends or w/e...but yeah i'm just startin to let the puzzle solve its self up...but yeah i'm worried that if i dump my girl and stay with this new chick that someday this new chick might dump me too for w/e reason...plus i'm afraid that my girlfriend won't be able to recover from this break up if ever you know...my head's gettin a lil big i know but seriously i really don't know...PLEASE!...i know i wanna be a DJ...i wanna be a man and solve my own problem cuz that's what a man do but i really need help from all the ones who had been through this and just knows this field really well...i know most situations are different from each other but shlt shlt shlt...i'm starting to become a player...a player in terms of relationships not lasting like a mofo...ugh!!!!!!!~
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Take some time to throw knowledge on this lil head of mine
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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Dude, stop worrying so much. And theres no need to tell your girl (NYC) anything, just see where it goes.
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I've read this post, mulled it over for 3 hours, and still can't figure out WHY IN GOD's NAME YOU WOULD SAY ANYTHING TO YOUR GF ABOUT SAID GIRL!
Use your head man. I've been in an LTR, and know that talking about any other women, especially when yours is 3K miles away is BIG TROUBLE.
That being said, don't say a peep about your co-worker to GF. Don't cheat on her, be honest with her, and give this relationship time. You're probably just lusting for this chick.
She's hot, you're horny, and your GF is a long ways away...normal feelings. You want to **** her brains out, I know I would.
Just take it slow, and if the feelings get stronger and stronger, make a decision.
Use your head man. I've been in an LTR, and know that talking about any other women, especially when yours is 3K miles away is BIG TROUBLE.
That being said, don't say a peep about your co-worker to GF. Don't cheat on her, be honest with her, and give this relationship time. You're probably just lusting for this chick.
She's hot, you're horny, and your GF is a long ways away...normal feelings. You want to **** her brains out, I know I would.
Just take it slow, and if the feelings get stronger and stronger, make a decision.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
i told her about the girl cuz it's been getting harder and harder for me to say i love you knowing i'm falling for another girl...she's really crazy for me and told me that i can do w/e i want and she'll stay with me no strings attach...you're right...i guess i do wanna get in this new girl's pants...ugh i hate it cuz i see hot chicks all the time and i would never approach knowing i'm content with my girl but this chick just goes after me and i fall easily for nice girls plus she's hot you know...i'll take your advice...i'll keep my mouth shut...i'll go back to new york this september...between those days if my feelings do get stronger by the time i get to new york i'm gonna have to break it down for her...sigh...i can breathe better now...thanks!~B4IFURU18? said:
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Oh my Christ.
This sh!t is unreadable. Perhaps you should get a book on grammar and study that for a spell? Using elipses marks to start a different paragraph absolutely kills this sh!t you've written.
Horrible, truly fvcking horrible.
This sh!t is unreadable. Perhaps you should get a book on grammar and study that for a spell? Using elipses marks to start a different paragraph absolutely kills this sh!t you've written.
Horrible, truly fvcking horrible.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.