how's everyone at sosuave.com? =p nothin much just stoppin by to get a lil knowledge from all the masters here on this site...i'm in california now if anybody knows my history...i came from new york...i had no choice but to move with my family who wanted to live in cali cuz i didn't want to get a job and my own apartment in new york, start my own life and not finish school...i have a girlfriend in new york which is driving me crazy right now cuz i met a girl here in cali...a coworker who i can't really figure out all that much yet...i told my girlfriend about her and she's loosing trust in me yet i know how much she's crazy for me...i hate it cuz me and my girl have a really good thing goin on...it's one of those type that you think will last forever cuz you two are just chill together...we talk for hours everyday...say i love you and all that...talk about the future and just damn good for each other...but my coworker...she is gettin on me...i'm not goin to lie...this girl is hot...i mean hot...ugh man...sides shiftin right now...i'm startin not really to fall for her but the fact that my girl isn't with me makes it easier for her to infiltrate me you know what i mean?...it's really hard right now...my girl is always cryin every night...i always got some crazy shlt to tell her about the girl at work that's just nightmare for her and it's hard for me that i'm always hurting her...like today...my girl doesn't know about this yet...but this girl at my job after work went to the restroom...changed and put on a really tight shorts...and asked me if i wanted to ride with her...i did...i couldn't resist...we had a good talk...got to know each other a lil bit...i didn't ask for a number, aim, myspace or any of that...just said thanks and went on my way...i'm really feelin this chick right now...it's funny though cuz as hot as she is i really didn't get that butterfly like i don't know what to say or shlt anymore...thanks to this website i guess...yup i'm a recovering afc right now...i don't know what to do...ugh...i know i shouldn't be thinkin negatively about everythin but i'm a lil worried that if i go for this chick which i'm starting to feel that she wanna get with me...i don't know cuz i didn't ask if she has a boyfriend or w/e...just tryin to be strictly friends or w/e...but yeah i'm just startin to let the puzzle solve its self up...but yeah i'm worried that if i dump my girl and stay with this new chick that someday this new chick might dump me too for w/e reason...plus i'm afraid that my girlfriend won't be able to recover from this break up if ever you know...my head's gettin a lil big i know but seriously i really don't know...PLEASE!...i know i wanna be a DJ...i wanna be a man and solve my own problem cuz that's what a man do but i really need help from all the ones who had been through this and just knows this field really well...i know most situations are different from each other but shlt shlt shlt...i'm starting to become a player...a player in terms of relationships not lasting like a mofo...ugh!!!!!!!~
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Take some time to throw knowledge on this lil head of mine
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Buck Rogers
Don Juan
Dude, stop worrying so much. And theres no need to tell your girl (NYC) anything, just see where it goes.
B4IFURU18?
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I've read this post, mulled it over for 3 hours, and still can't figure out WHY IN GOD's NAME YOU WOULD SAY ANYTHING TO YOUR GF ABOUT SAID GIRL!
Use your head man. I've been in an LTR, and know that talking about any other women, especially when yours is 3K miles away is BIG TROUBLE.
That being said, don't say a peep about your co-worker to GF. Don't cheat on her, be honest with her, and give this relationship time. You're probably just lusting for this chick.
She's hot, you're horny, and your GF is a long ways away...normal feelings. You want to **** her brains out, I know I would.
Just take it slow, and if the feelings get stronger and stronger, make a decision.
Use your head man. I've been in an LTR, and know that talking about any other women, especially when yours is 3K miles away is BIG TROUBLE.
That being said, don't say a peep about your co-worker to GF. Don't cheat on her, be honest with her, and give this relationship time. You're probably just lusting for this chick.
She's hot, you're horny, and your GF is a long ways away...normal feelings. You want to **** her brains out, I know I would.
Just take it slow, and if the feelings get stronger and stronger, make a decision.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
i told her about the girl cuz it's been getting harder and harder for me to say i love you knowing i'm falling for another girl...she's really crazy for me and told me that i can do w/e i want and she'll stay with me no strings attach...you're right...i guess i do wanna get in this new girl's pants...ugh i hate it cuz i see hot chicks all the time and i would never approach knowing i'm content with my girl but this chick just goes after me and i fall easily for nice girls plus she's hot you know...i'll take your advice...i'll keep my mouth shut...i'll go back to new york this september...between those days if my feelings do get stronger by the time i get to new york i'm gonna have to break it down for her...sigh...i can breathe better now...thanks!~B4IFURU18? said:
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Oh my Christ.
This sh!t is unreadable. Perhaps you should get a book on grammar and study that for a spell? Using elipses marks to start a different paragraph absolutely kills this sh!t you've written.
Horrible, truly fvcking horrible.
This sh!t is unreadable. Perhaps you should get a book on grammar and study that for a spell? Using elipses marks to start a different paragraph absolutely kills this sh!t you've written.
Horrible, truly fvcking horrible.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.