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"Take out the trash"-type nagging

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So lets say you are taking out the trash (or whatever task really) and have it as a habit and do it on a regular basis. Then your woman, for some reason, finds it necessary to remind you to take out the trash even though you do it flawlessly. Then she does that the second time before you managed to do the task.

Is there a way to combat this behaviour in women?

I am willing tell that "each time you remind me I will postpone the completion of this task by 2 hours" or is it immature?
 

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So lets say you are taking out the trash (or whatever task really) and have it as a habit and do it on a regular basis. Then your woman, for some reason, finds it necessary to remind you to take out the trash even though you do it flawlessly. Then she does that the second time before you managed to do the task.

Is there a way to combat this behaviour in women?

I am willing tell that "each time you remind me I will postpone the completion of this task by 2 hours" or is it immature?
Trying to train you like a dog.
 

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You have to be able to speak out to a woman. If you don't say something then you're tacitly allowing it.

If she starts being controlling, you tell her she's being controlling and confront her.

But don't react with emotion.
 

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>Shre reminds me to take out the trash
>I tell her "no"
>I take out trash anyway
What?
HE has a habit of taking out the trash. He does it at a certain time. Her in attempt to get "control" on him, nags him to do it at her behest...
 

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You have to be able to speak out to a woman. If you don't say something then you're tacitly allowing it.

If she starts being controlling, you tell her she's being controlling and confront her.

But don't react with emotion.
We will need a section on "assertiveness training" and dealing with narcs, because the solution to this is a little more complicated and psychological than many of us have the know how to do. How to deal with and dispel attempts at control, without causing a great conflict.
 

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How would you speak to a colleague about that same thing? Maybe it is TPS reports?

Joe, I do them every day. Is there a reason you need them sooner today?"
 

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How would you speak to a colleague about that same thing? Maybe it is TPS reports?

Joe, I do them every day. Is there a reason you need them sooner today?"
Yes, because i saw you were getting in your zone...
 

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This fact alone already shows that there are other problems, this is just a sympton of a bigger issue.

She is basically doing something that makes you uncomfortable, annoys you and makes you dislike here...her line is the last of the problems.
 

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This fact alone already shows that there are other problems, this is just a sympton of a bigger issue.

She is basically doing something that makes you uncomfortable, annoys you and makes you dislike here...her line is the last of the problems.
A few of those "make you uncomfortable" and "annoyances" gives her "control" and "physical dominance" in the space.
 
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So lets say you are taking out the trash (or whatever task really) and have it as a habit and do it on a regular basis. Then your woman, for some reason, finds it necessary to remind you to take out the trash even though you do it flawlessly. Then she does that the second time before you managed to do the task.

Is there a way to combat this behaviour in women?

I am willing tell that "each time you remind me I will postpone the completion of this task by 2 hours" or is it immature?
Avoid the situation entirely. Don't become her property.
 

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" I always take the trash out, without you reminding me. I'd appreciate it if you'd stop doing that"

BTW, you live together?
 

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So lets say you are taking out the trash (or whatever task really) and have it as a habit and do it on a regular basis. Then your woman, for some reason, finds it necessary to remind you to take out the trash even though you do it flawlessly. Then she does that the second time before you managed to do the task.

Is there a way to combat this behaviour in women?

I am willing tell that "each time you remind me I will postpone the completion of this task by 2 hours" or is it immature?
She feels the need to remind you even though you are already doing it because it validates her and makes her feel more important than she is. It gives her the sense that she is in charge and talking to her about it is not only pointless and trivial she will see it as point to cause an arguement over. Aka she will nag more. Somewhere along the line you stopped leading, and she is trying to step into the head of the house roll.

The only way to make her aware of how annoying it is, is to spoon feed her her own behaviour right back to her. Keep it up, keep reminding her to do stuff she is already doing. She will point it out. That is when you say ok, now that i have your attention. And from this moment on, lead.

Telling her she is nagging will only make her nag more.
 
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