"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Take good care of your Back

Roly

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I believe your Back is definitely one of the most important parts of your body you've got to take good care of daily. Your back can affect your physiology i.e. the way you carry yourself and your state of mind. Have you guys notice that most AFCs are always slumping instead of standing straight up? If you've got a habbit of slouching, you've definitely got to correct that. Stand up straight and put your head up and you will definitely notice your state changing.

A few good back work outs:

- Take yoga or try a couple of yoga poses.

The lean in squat: Be in a squat position and lean in against the wall for a good munite.

The jumping for joy: Put your head up, with your arms up as if you were riding a bicycle and jump around for a good munite or two while stretching your neck and shoulders in the process.

Take good care of your back and it will take good care of you.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Quiksilver

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I agree, posture really affects your frame and influences the way others see and judge you.

The easiest way to take care of your back is to join a gym and use it. Sure you can throw your shoulders back with conscious thought, or you could lay down some muscle back there that will hold your back in the right position effortlessly.

Penkitten, your suggestion is a band-aid solution.
 

spesmilitis

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spinal decompressions!

too lazy to fetcha link. look it up at stronglifts.com
 

penkitten

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Quiksilver said:
Penkitten, your suggestion is a band-aid solution.
its actually a rule at lots of places i ever worked at.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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theunflushables

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Also let her be on top. (Old bad back excuse) It was JFKs favorite position.
 
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Our back is the most critical - they call us a "vertebrae" species for a reason!!
 
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