Tactical Error

[Knight's Cross]

So I'm catching up with a plate I spun away 2 years ago. (Some history. She knows about exbpdgf and they have some of the same social circle) I tell former plate about what's been going on. That exgf kept coming by my place, and that I had to call the sheriff, and file a letter with an attorney to get ex to stop bothering me. I wake up this morning realizing that info will make its way to the rest of the social circle.
I can tell her to keep the info on the downlow, but knowing her I bet it's already broadcast across half of this smaller cities social scene. It didn't help that I caught up to her at a GNO situation. Women as we know LOVE to talk about drama. So this is prime story telling material.
Why do I care you may ask? While all the info is true, letting friends of my ex know how crazy she got in the end may cause me more grief from ex. Where I think I screwed up is the unplugging part. I shouldn't be broadcasting my life's drama. True or not gossip is for women. Sure my ex was being irrational.

I strayed from my rule: before opening your mouth and saying something in front of a woman, ask yourself," Is what you are about to say a confident statement?" If not, then keep your mouth shut. Less is often more.


Ideas? What's the group opinion on this one?

KC

 

[MacAvoy]

You are correct in your self assessment.

 

[jophil28]

Loose lips sink ships ?

Hey KC, perhaps it was not wise to tell all, but it is done and you can't unring a bell, so what to do?
If I were you, I would be ready to instruct your lawyer to get an RO one nanosecond after (or if) your ex starts in again with her stalking crap.
Secondly , talk to the "friend" and ask her to report back to you if she hears that your Ex is all steamed and coming your way.

 

[Knight's Cross]

Thanks Mac and Jophil,
In damage assessment I have learned that you have to believe all information is compromised. So assuming ex finds out that it's in the open what a wack job she was, I am prepared for it. Now I'm going to silent running. It's been tough not to talk with anyone of what my life has been like. I made the error of telling former plate. Shoulda kept that stuff to my inner circle of brothers.
Moving on. Plate wise I'm doin alright spinnin 3 now. Better # for me. That and having a blast these last couple days of quail season.

 

[KontrollerX]

This is a tough one.

On one hand if you don't inform all your friends what the BPD is and what she has done to you, you risk her using her BPD talents to make you look like the real piece of garbage in your social circle.

On the other hand you understandably don't want your business being known to the whole world.

I guess though you are in the clear if you don't let everyone know whats up with the ex so long as a core group of your buddies know about it and can vouch for you being the sane one should she ever go on a smearing campaign of you which is all too common with BPD's.