"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Where do you stand with your personal morals when, after some self improvement, girls who previously acted like you didn't exist suddenly want your attention?

I know stock answer will be "who cares, bang 'em", but what about niggling fact that you weren't good enough for them to even acknowledge x months ago? anyone else have the temptation to tell them to get the f!*k out of your face now they've shown how stuck-up and superficial they are?

Who's been here and which way did you go?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Brosy said:
Where do you stand with your personal morals when, after some self improvement, girls who previously acted like you didn't exist suddenly want your attention?

I know stock answer will be "who cares, bang 'em", but what about niggling fact that you weren't good enough for them to even acknowledge x months ago? anyone else have the temptation to tell them to get the f!*k out of your face now they've shown how stuck-up and superficial they are?

Who's been here and which way did you go?
I wouldn't date them. I wouldn't date anybody. Truth is, it all depends on what you can offer them.
Human beings are selfish creatures, so I can't see myself with anybody until I get bored of doing things alone, which is gonna take awhile.

Do self improvement to improve yourself, not to get another person's attention.

To answer your question, I've been there.
My self improvement was better social skills.
I banged girls. That's what I did. All of this self improvement led me to a new life philosophy. If your thinking hasn't changed one bit and you've tried to do self improvement in every area, you're doing something wrong.
I'm not gonna tell you what to do. It's your decision. If I tell you, YOU'RE not doing the improvement or expanding your own self awareness.

Think on this. What do YOU think is the best thing to do?
 

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Brosy said:
Where do you stand with your personal morals when, after some self improvement, girls who previously acted like you didn't exist suddenly want your attention?

I know stock answer will be "who cares, bang 'em", but what about niggling fact that you weren't good enough for them to even acknowledge x months ago? anyone else have the temptation to tell them to get the f!*k out of your face now they've shown how stuck-up and superficial they are?

Who's been here and which way did you go?
It's the same thing with us guys. Girl starts going to the gym, loses 20 lbs, gets fake boobs.....
 

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Sneevox the thing I do is just look at them trying to talk to me with the "are you lost?" face. After all, now you know these girls aren't cripplingly shy, they literally ignore people they aren't attracted to. These people used to be you, they are your friends, colleagues, people you know are worth the time of day because you aren't a shallow f!*k.

I can't speak for all men, but I am perfectly pleasant to said girl in plates_empty's post before the boob/gym transformation.
 

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Brosy said:
Sneevox the thing I do is just look at them trying to talk to me with the "are you lost?" face. After all, now you know these girls aren't cripplingly shy, they literally ignore people they aren't attracted to. These people used to be you, they are your friends, colleagues, people you know are worth the time of day because you aren't a shallow f!*k.

I can't speak for all men, but I am perfectly pleasant to said girl in plates_empty's post before the boob/gym transformation.
Makes sense. I do find it humorous when people are upset that you don't find them attractive if they look like they put zero effort into their looks at almost all times.
Had a girl like that recently.
All of the beta chumps in my cast are like in love with her, though. It's hilarious.

-sigh- no attractive women.
funny thing, I've asked a lot of guys, and apparently the most attractive girl in the cast to them is this chick named Shannon. Shannon is maybe like a 5 (no tits, no ass, skinny with some flab, about 5'4", brunette, very tan) and she dresses nicely all the time... but she's 25 years old. I can't help but think it's no coincidence that, according to the SMV chart, she's in her sexual prime right now.

Funny how things work, though. Men age like wine, women age like fruit.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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