Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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T total and affect on friendships

switch7

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In January I stopped alcohol, mainly due to the way it reacted with a medication I began taking. I wanted to quit long before I started meds but now I had something that would physically stop me which made it a lot easier to give up.

Since then my friends have dropped off like flies. Out of 10 or so guys, only 2 keep in touch ( speak to one over whatsapp and meet up with the other maybe once a month for a couple hours) and I think sooner or later that 2 will become 1. Other than this I have an ex gf who i meet up with now and again and few friends who live in other cities who call me from time to time. So I am having very little face to face interaction with the friends I have left.

I did try meeting up with a few on one occasion, they drank alcohol whilst i drank fruit juice. It just wasn't the same, and I found the conversations mundane.

I feel is a great opportunity for me. I am seriously considering cutting off all ties with 90% of these people as my life is way more productive now and I do not want to fall back into old habits. My aim is to network towards attaining new friends focused on healthy lifestyle and achieving goals.

Anyways, this whole thing has made me realise how fickle friendships are and how much social circles rely on their main activity being drinking. Once you take alcohol out of the equation, 90% of people are boring. Most people are just masking as friends so that they don't have to go out drinking alone.

Any else experienced this?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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zekko

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Let's face it, what usually brings men together are common activities. Guys you golf with, guys you play music with, guys you go fishing with, guys you shoot guns with, whatever it might be. Drinkers and addicts want to spend time with other drinkers and addicts. Once you quit drinking, you're not on the same wavelength. Alcohol is the great social lubricator, for sure.

You're just going to have to find something else to do with your time. Most likely, it will be more interesting.

I thought this thread was going to be about testosterone level :)
 
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