One last thing. I have been single for 3 years now... Im tired of sloots, random sex, the game and all that ****. So yes, maybe I wanted to make a relationship too fast too soon and I scared her. Maybe she thought "this guy is already in love WTF?!?!" and her ***** got dry. But she was also into it and sweet af, thats why I was so enthusiastic.
So... fvck that. Good girls just want to be treated like random sloots. Im coming back to the bar I guess...
You're still looking at things from a black and white, all or nothing, gf-slvt POV. The truth is there's a ton of nuances and shades of gray that your mental model doesn't account for. It isn't just ONS vs LTR--a relationship doesn't have to
look a certain way. It doesn't have to be
just like your last relationship. Sure, that worked for you then. But you've (hopefully) changed; this time it's with a different girl; your life circumstance have (hopefully) changed, and your last relationships didn't work out (for whatever reason). That's awesome. You can start fresh and try some things differently.
Some girls are good for a night, some for a couple weeks, some for a couple months, etc. But how long they make a good fit for your lifestyle
is on them. You should treat every girl the exact same,
until she proves she deserves preferential treatment. Virgins and bar slvts respond to the same attraction triggers. Even that virgin wants you to put her in a position where sex might happen. Isolate & escalate. You won't know where they fall on that spectrum until they fall there. Stop treating girls differently based on your mental projection--
get to know her for who she is and not what you want her to be.
And, in fact, slvttier girls respond much better to 'respectful guy' game. They've already been burned; they've been used--they know they can't tie down that alpha (though they'll still want a spin for the night). Naive, inexperienced girls fall for 'players' and 'bad boys.' That type of thing is exciting for them. And high quality gf material chicks with a moderate n-count don't even know that players are a real thing--because they'll have successfully tied down all but the coldest of players.
You're still running Antidump's
The Machine model to dating. But AD was an older guy (most likely) dating older women. If you want a girl to make you wait three dates, date an older woman--just know she wasn't like that in her prime and you're only fooling yourself. Girls will behave according to their other options.
I've been meaning to do an extensive post on screening girls (but that'll be sometime after spring break--city is popping!); but a quick tell I've started experimenting with is the first time you get a girl alone, middle of conversation grab her forearm a little forcefully and look into her eyes and pull her towards you just a little. Inexperienced girls will get super nervous, might even scare her off; but unless she's just low interest she'll be super receptive the next time you hit her up--this means she isn't used to being touched that way and it's a little scary and a little exciting. More experienced, agenda-based girls won't even flinch but might give you some schpiel about 'how OMG she isn't like that;' she's used to being touched like that and knows exactly what it means. Slvts don't care. Escalate or not at your own discretion lol.
