"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Swearing/cursing?

Page3lover2

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Is it not a good thing to do even is she does? I do seem to swear quite often - do you think it's worth cleaning-up my act?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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ya, and is it signifying anything if the chick curses a whole lot? like maybe she's around alota dudes.
 

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I did think that actually. She didn't really seem to be in much of a group in college and said that most of her mates were outside college. She's a bright girl and dresses very well just that she doesn't strike me as the most refined individual. If you met her you wouldn't immediately think 'common' though. (Btw this girl was the cause of much One-itis, which is improving a lot now thankfully).
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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(Btw this girl was the cause of much One-itis, which is improving a lot now thankfully).
D'ya wanna explain that one mate?

How exactly is your one-itis improving?

You're still thinking about her,you've started a thread on this forum about her and you're even thinking about changing WHO YOU ARE for this "common" bint.

No,no,no,no,NO!

Have you even read the bible?
Have you read any of the 1000's of posts around here?

FFS who cares if some women feel disrespected.....if you swear,you swear.
If they don't like it then they can always fuk off and find someone who doesn't swear.

We need a :shaking head in sheer disbelief: emoticon.....this one will have to do for now:rolleyes:
 

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Dude in post before mine, **** offf. Ya'll gettin wayy too out of hand with this oneitis thing. THe dude and the chick seem to be dating if not in a relationship, so I don't see how it could be onitis, onitis is obsessing over a girl who dosn't return your feelings. He gave no indication of this. There is no problem of him being into a girl he's dating thats how u seperate the weeds from the wheat, IL.

Anyway, from what I see people are gonna have to change alot of things about themselves from time to time to mix in with certain social circles or get a certain job, become a nminister whatever it is. The important thing is that he made a conscise decisin on his own and wasn't naged or threatned for it. In this case he could end up turnin out a better person for it. A time could come when he may meeet the girls parents and I don't think cussin would make a good impression. Cussin is not a personality trait and changing it would not change your personality. However as a recovering adict, I'll have to say, its gonna be pretty %#$in hard:p .

THe dude below me really should get a life, personalties change evry day in some from just as cells change. U can't tell me your the exact same person u r now as 10 years ago. High school me does not = Adult me. Highschool me could not even approach a girl. Part of life and why we are human and somthing that a machine can't do is learn and chage personaality habits and the way we respond. Its what sets us appart u can't be too afraid of change, infact its what we are here on this site for.

Page3lover2 , u have to be decisive, make the decision yourself and decide if it will be benificial to you. Don't be bullied into anything. By cussin unexcusably u only make an ass of yourself anyway.
 

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I wasn't thinking specifically about this girl - I was thinking much more generally. I'm not likely to see this girl again after my exams anyway - I'm practically over it by ignoring her.
 

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Yep. Some girls won't like you swearing, and none really will want you to anyway.

Don't swear at all. You'll fit in with both gruops.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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