Susceptible to chicks gassing your head up and feeling yourself? You might want to read this.

[9Volt]

If you are susceptible to letting a chick or anyone for that matter gas your head up then you will be just as susceptible to that or those same people doing a possible 180 one day and tearing you down.

You need to be level headed, confident and sure of yourself without needing some chick or chicks no matter how much you like her or how hot she is or what good things she has to say about you to give you a self-esteem boost. This is not to say you brush everything off or get paranoid or angry as if everything good a chick or people say about you is a "trick". It's just to say that if you are easily susceptible to having your head gassed up by being told you are the "best she's ever had, biggest dink she's ever had, best lover etc." if that SAME person in the future does a 180 and you break up etc then she trashes you wind up being torn down.

Take compliments, words etc. with a smile and a grain of salt. Don't start "feeling yourself" with your head in the clouds as if you completely rely on someone else opinion of you even IF it's always complimentary. Because far too many dudes fly high when their dream girl or "perfect girl" tells them what they want them to hear or is sincere at the time then down the line if things go sour trashes them and they wind up screwed up over that same person doing a complete 180 or finding someone "better".

It happens in all facets of life. Pro Athletes etc. Their "fans" and "close friends" will live vicariously through them, tell them all the things they want to hear and start "feelin themselves" until things change or the "next best thing" comes along and all the "compliments" etc. dwindle and they end up all screwed up, alcoholics, on drugs etc.

Keep yourselves grounded at all times.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

I jave never in my life ever heard of the phrase "gassing your head up". I think it means testing you or playing with your emotions, but not even context clues could give me a definitive hint as to what that means. Sorry OP, I'm lost.

 

[9Volt]

I jave never in my life ever heard of the phrase "gassing your head up". I think it means testing you or playing with your emotions, but not even context clues could give me a definitive hint as to what that means. Sorry OP, I'm lost.

gassing
To give someone an ego boost, to swell up their head with compliments.

 

[El Payaso]

Great post. As the saying goes, pride goes before a fall.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

If you are susceptible to letting a chick or anyone for that matter gas your head up then you will be just as susceptible to that or those same people doing a possible 180 one day and tearing you down.

You need to be level headed, confident and sure of yourself without needing some chick or chicks no matter how much you like her or how hot she is or what good things she has to say about you to give you a self-esteem boost. This is not to say you brush everything off or get paranoid or angry as if everything good a chick or people say about you is a "trick". It's just to say that if you are easily susceptible to having your head gassed up by being told you are the "best she's ever had, biggest dink she's ever had, best lover etc." if that SAME person in the future does a 180 and you break up etc then she trashes you wind up being torn down.

Take compliments, words etc. with a smile and a grain of salt. Don't start "feeling yourself" with your head in the clouds as if you completely rely on someone else opinion of you even IF it's always complimentary. Because far too many dudes fly high when their dream girl or "perfect girl" tells them what they want them to hear or is sincere at the time then down the line if things go sour trashes them and they wind up screwed up over that same person doing a complete 180 or finding someone "better".

It happens in all facets of life. Pro Athletes etc. Their "fans" and "close friends" will live vicariously through them, tell them all the things they want to hear and start "feelin themselves" until things change or the "next best thing" comes along and all the "compliments" etc. dwindle and they end up all screwed up, alcoholics, on drugs etc.

Keep yourselves grounded at all times.

It's ok to receive complements and not have a self-esteem in the gutter. The important point is to know reality. Because sometimes the parting shot is designed to hurt you and reduce you,.

 

[9Volt]

It's ok to receive complements and not have a self-esteem in the gutter. The important point is to know reality. Because sometimes the parting shot is designed to hurt you and reduce you,.

The point is to not let compliments go to your head to where you think you are the "best ever" as in keep yourself grounded. because if you trip over yourself for some "perfect" chick who tells you you're the best etc. and rely on her external validation only you will be susceptible to that same chick tearing you down in the future should it happen.

ex: hb9 likes you and tells you:

"you are the best lover I ever had". you smile and say thank you. not go over the moon about it.

she later down the road happens to find someone "better" and says you sucked in bed. you smile and laugh it off knowing to keep grounded and take words good or bad with a grain of salt.

if they can build you up with words they can tear you down with them if you aren't confident and grounded to begin with yourself not just external validation.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I jave never in my life ever heard of the phrase "gassing your head up". I think it means testing you or playing with your emotions, but not even context clues could give me a definitive hint as to what that means. Sorry OP, I'm lost.

Blowing your ego up is what "gassing your head up" means. It's not always a bad thing.

 

[KingofPuss]

I wouldnt say don't let the compliments go to your head, but don't let the hurtful words get to your ego. In the moment, the woman may be sincere. But in the moment yall break up, she will try to hurt you and trust me, they remember everything they said.

 

[9Volt]

I wouldnt say don't let the compliments go to your head, but don't let the hurtful words get to your ego. In the moment, the woman may be sincere. But in the moment yall break up, she will try to hurt you and trust me, they remember everything they said.

What I'm saying is not to let either good or bad go to your head and be cool about it. stay grounded either way.

chicks can say you're the best but most likely will tell the next dude the same. so I personally don't get paranoid or suspicious about it. I just take words as they come.

some dudes let the compliments go to their head then when or if the chick does a 180 can't believe she flipped the script.

just saying to be secure and confident in yourself not needing to necessarily feed off words then get your self esteem shattered or taking a hit if the chick flips down the line.

same with athletes, actors etc. some of them let it go to their heads and when it ends or they get dropped can't handle it as they fed off the likes or dislikes they got.

or a boss who tells you you're the best then when the next best thing comes along you're not so hot anymore even if you excel regardless.

just keep it cool and positive not letting people manipulate your mind and or ego.

 

[PeasantPlayer]

I have a friend like this who gets these plastic self esteem boosts, and takes it to his head. This girl said this or that. This person said this. Its like dude, they are lying (most of the time)