Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Susan, part two.
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
You are missing the essential point. It really isn't exactly looks. From my point of view it seems as if every woman has an idea, or ideas in her head as to how a man for her should be. Looks aren't necessarily what tips the balance. It is more that the guy fit into her lifestyle and expectations.ketostix said:
I'm saying that I had easy access to these two Susan's because I was their kind of guy, my coolness, in their eyes, makes me more attractive than any objective rating as to my looks.
iqqi
Master Don Juan
I have always debated you point for point. You are the one that responds with some version of "quit picking on poor little me" instead of actually responding. So don't even go there. Many don't even waste time on your threads anymore because of your inability to take or consider criticism. All your responses are either you being the victim of the iqqi click, or poor me I had a bad year.STR8UP said:
If I had to guess, I'd say the potato (male or female) is either from Cali or Asheville, NC. Asheville is a bizzarre, dreamlike, rainbows and LSD sort of city where this stuff sometimes happens.
Hoo boy, if you are at all honest, you have to admit that's not true. Who says that he experiences females the way you do? No, not some guy in a movie or an AXE body spray commercial. What real guy says that he has experiences like yours? You can say that "everybody else is weird, and I'm the only normal one" until you're blue in the face, but you are the one who is not normal.potato said:
PS: I did find a male romance novelist on the net. He writes nothing like potato. Only females write like that.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
iqqi
Master Don Juan
I am sure there are a few others here who would disagree on the real reason why those threads are closed.STR8UP said:
dont i know it.potato said:
what people are looking for is someone who can STEP UP. most girls turn to mud in my presence. they have no idea what to do with me. they want me but i am but a dream.
once a person has STEPPED UP, or shown that they can STEP UP then it becomes about the lifestyle and do you two mesh/ click. do you have fun together. are you equals or does one clearly OUTSHINE the other? you want what you yourself have. and you go on looking.potato said:
must be easier for potato though; lacking s.o.h he's not the full package
he hejophil28
Master Don Juan
Ha ha ha ! Hey Choclo - you better translate that for the septics, digger. They would have Buckleys at grasping why you are on about.ElChoclo said:
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Isn't potato just mocking us at this point?
Kind of surprised that there is still even a debate about whether or not this real.
No matter how much romance your pen can spew forth, nobody will ever be able to take it seriously if it comes from a man named "potato"
Remember the wise Simpsons: "A rose by any other name would still smell as sweet...unless it was called a stinkweed"
You, potato, are the stinkweed of romance novels.
I could honestly screenplay the hell out of a dude named Potato who meets three separate rock collecting girls, two of whom are named Susan. My god. Judd Apatow couldn't write this!