"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Surrounding yourself with beautiful women

skinnyguy

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Doing pickup here and there is ok, but ultimately I think in order to be a true DJ you should have access to a lot of beautiful women.

I'm starting to develop this through my work and my friend circle. The first thing I want is respect from them and then maybe some hookups. Overall I want to have an easier time picking up girls than those who do cold approach on the street. I want to be able to have my pick of hot, quality women that I value.

Some guys are just naturals, some aren't. What have you done in order to get an abundance of hot women in your life?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I do think it helps. But there is something to be said about being the only guy in a place to be able to snatch up the top 2 or 3 sexy girls.

Normally in places where there are a ton of "hot" chicks, there's also a ton of douchy AMOGs and competition. Nightclubs, inner cities, expensive restaurants, concerts, whatever. Yes, I know a true DJ doesn't care about competition because he knows he's better, but still. I prefer to operate in an environment where there's not a trillion different factors and ****blocks killing my chances. Not to mention that these "hot" nightclub girls are in reality low quality and have zero personality..I mean i'd still fvck them, but still..

But yes i agree with you in general. One of the best things i did for my game was becoming friends with a group of cute girls. Made me super comfortable around girls and plus they have cute friends.
 

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I've been preaching this a lot lately. The secret to the true don juan lifestyle isn't cold approach. It's having a vast social circle and being well respected in it.

Tons of cold approaching is advised at first to get you out of your shell, build confidence and teach you a girl telling you no is okay. A thicker layer of skin.
But the next level after you've accomplished that is social circle game.
 

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Ur first sentence if flawed, thinking ultimately.

Beautiful girls will gravitate towards beautiful girls and beautiful males.
Be a beautiful male on the inside skinnyguy, then change ur name to beautiful guy...
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Yes, sideways wouldn't even touch them if he was surrounded with them.
 

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They don't have to be beautiful, just decent looking. I have a girl roommate who I go out with, just us, semi-frequently. The attention I get is ****ing insane.

Being with girls speaks volumes. A girl sees that and wonders, "damn, what's he got going for him that has them interested. Now I wanna know." Even if they're just friends, being able to socialize with girls will refine your game, teach you how to interact with women at the most simple levels.
 

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skinnyguy said:
The first thing I want is respect from them
Who the**** talks like that? :down: Like saying, "I expect to be a multi billionaire rockstar race car banker." "Why?" "Couse Im awesome" "Ok, GL". like... being humble brings beuty to a human. Dont tlk **** or youll get hit in one way or another.
 

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cola said:
I've been preaching this a lot lately. The secret to the true don juan lifestyle isn't cold approach. It's having a vast social circle and being well respected in it.
The thing about social circle is that you know something about the chick ahead of time before going out with her. That way you can choose wisely and accordingly.

With cold approach, the girl could be married, a single mother with four kids, BPD, hung up on her ex, a girl who accuses every guy she spends time with of raping her, a slvt with more STDs than you can shake a stick at, a girl with a jealous psycho ex-con gun crazy drug dealer boyfriend, or anything else you can think of.

The good thing about cold approach is if you see a girl you like the looks of, you can approach her and not just wonder what she'd be like. But nine times out of ten, and especially as you get older, she'll already be taken.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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