"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Superficial, high-maintenance shell

Lion

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What's bugging me is that the girl I am currently in a relationship with, let's call her poor little rich girl PLRG, has a circle of superficial friends. e.g. they feel the need to buy ridiculously expensive objects, clothes and constantly go on holiday 1st class etc. overuse exagerrate language to APPEAR interesting and exciting, except its most likely compensating for whatever's lacking in their lives.

These friends bring out the superficial, high-maintenance side that DOES NOT turn me on at all.

What would you do if tomorrow all your expensive dresses, jeans, underwear, car, holidays and money was gone. Would you be able to make that money without your parents funding your expensive tastes? What kind of person would you be? Would you be able to handle it?

Many of her friends are not however and this reflects my personality - people who know me know I'm down-to-earth, know how to have a good time but understand that money doesn't bring REAL happiness, it just HELPS in life.

The thing is PLRG is fantastic when she's with me. She doesn't seem like a superficial person, quite the opposite, she knows that being with me makes her happy, regardless of where or what she's doing.

When the going gets tough, she relies on superficial things to get her through and I can't see this side to her personality changing. Long-term, I think I deserve to be with someone who can handle their business head on.

Man that feels good, enough said :)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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slaog

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Alot of women are like that these days. They buy to make up for something lacking in their lives. Its an addiction just not as bad as other addictions.


You need to talk about it with her. See what her attitude towards it is. You can tell alot about a person by their friends so it doesn't look good. If you lost everything do you think she'd stick around?
 

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Hey slaog, I've noticed it's becoming the norm, just a handful of my friends are business minded, the rest just earn to spend.

Actually I'm proud of myself and thankful for my parenting to not have this addiction.

I could go out, spend a few k on sh*t but it wouldn't have a positive effect on my core self. I think this girl deep down is not like her friends. I just feel I could have a closer relationship with someone who like me, does not welcome this unfulfilling lifestyle.
 
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