"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Superficial, high-maintenance shell

Lion

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What's bugging me is that the girl I am currently in a relationship with, let's call her poor little rich girl PLRG, has a circle of superficial friends. e.g. they feel the need to buy ridiculously expensive objects, clothes and constantly go on holiday 1st class etc. overuse exagerrate language to APPEAR interesting and exciting, except its most likely compensating for whatever's lacking in their lives.

These friends bring out the superficial, high-maintenance side that DOES NOT turn me on at all.

What would you do if tomorrow all your expensive dresses, jeans, underwear, car, holidays and money was gone. Would you be able to make that money without your parents funding your expensive tastes? What kind of person would you be? Would you be able to handle it?

Many of her friends are not however and this reflects my personality - people who know me know I'm down-to-earth, know how to have a good time but understand that money doesn't bring REAL happiness, it just HELPS in life.

The thing is PLRG is fantastic when she's with me. She doesn't seem like a superficial person, quite the opposite, she knows that being with me makes her happy, regardless of where or what she's doing.

When the going gets tough, she relies on superficial things to get her through and I can't see this side to her personality changing. Long-term, I think I deserve to be with someone who can handle their business head on.

Man that feels good, enough said :)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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slaog

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Alot of women are like that these days. They buy to make up for something lacking in their lives. Its an addiction just not as bad as other addictions.


You need to talk about it with her. See what her attitude towards it is. You can tell alot about a person by their friends so it doesn't look good. If you lost everything do you think she'd stick around?
 

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Hey slaog, I've noticed it's becoming the norm, just a handful of my friends are business minded, the rest just earn to spend.

Actually I'm proud of myself and thankful for my parenting to not have this addiction.

I could go out, spend a few k on sh*t but it wouldn't have a positive effect on my core self. I think this girl deep down is not like her friends. I just feel I could have a closer relationship with someone who like me, does not welcome this unfulfilling lifestyle.
 
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