"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Sunglasses - Keep them or Lose them

CORVETTE06

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I wore these sunglasses on college campus one day and my x-g/f said i looked gay in them, and a few of my friends also said that they were gay & too big.

Then right he said that, he offered to buy them off me. Then my other friend wanted to borrow them for a little bit and wear them on campus. Then one girl said that they were nice and my sunglasses were the first thing she noticed.

In the past, I always wore things people said I shouldnt. For example, as a freshman in highschool i Dyed my head blonde like Eminem. Another example, as a sophmore in highschool i used to wear bandanas under my hats like Eminem.

Should I continue to wear these sunglasses out in public?

*keep in mind, i always dress nice. i wear Armani Exchange, Abercrombie & Fitch, Hollister and stuff like that. *


here are a pic of the sunglasses:

http://ii.armaniexchange.com/Armani...local/products/detail/3406.10834.0016.923.jpg

if that doesnt work, try this:
http://www.armaniexchange.com/produ...ge+mens+wrap+sunglasses.do?asc=&sortby=&size=
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Call_Me_Daddy

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Those are not sunglases. Those are "Fashion Glasses". Notice the lack of tint.

No wonder you got the Gay comment.



And as a tip: You are very impressionable. Abercombie, Eminem, fashion glasses. Just ask your friends what you should dress like, talk like, be like.... etc. You don't have much opinion and are a copycat. You want to be like the "Cool People". You emulate in hopes of being in the limelight.

Attention.

Well, that wasn't much of a tip. Oh well.
 

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sunglasses or not, they look pretty cool to me. might be better if you showed us a pic of you in them, tho.

if you get about an equal # of "those are gay" and "those are cool" comments, you should continue wearing them -- just not as often. Bring em out maybe once/twice a week or so.

If there's an item of clothing that garners mostly positive comments, on the other hand, then it's ok to wear it a lot.
 

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I dont wear sunglasses, only when Im driving, then I wear a driving glasses to minimize glare and prevent my eyes getting dry from wind. I think its all about eye contact, and it is lost with sunglasses.


Case in point, profile of some chick on my space or whatever, shes hot and shes wearing sunglasses. That makes her look rediculous, in fact, it takes away some of that hotness. Its no different on a dude.


Sometimes you just have to wear them, then its ok to do that. On college campus? I dont know about that, there will be lots of girls, not a lot of sun, you should be fine without glasses.
 

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i actually when buying sunglasses to go sunglass hut and then try stuff on... i buy glasses by how they fit me, because sunglasses look diffrent on everyone because everyone has a diffrent shaped head. i am a ray ban person.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Obsidian

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That makes her look rediculous, in fact, it takes away some of that hotness. Its no different on a dude.
not true. They make girls look ridiculous because sunglasses are manly. That being said, there are some girly glasses that actually look ok on girls, but overall sunglasses are masculine.

The only time they look stupid is if you're inside, or it's night time, or they just don't fit you. Even in those situations, you can get away with wearing them half the time if you're a movie star or something.
 

Snow Plowman

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DON't GIVE UP THE GLASSES

If its making you stand out then keep it, don't be like every other chode and wearing the same thing. It's funny because when I first changed my style everyone looked at me like "WTF". Then some people would go "He looks like a damn fool" or "He looks gay" but you know what. A month later as I wear more wild stuff, people are loving it.

Keep anything that stands out, it will only help.
 

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it all depends on facial structure really...

some people look good in some glasses while some people don't. thats why there is so many different styles.
 

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Put yo stunna shades on!

That girl is a hater!
 

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Speaking of shades, i went to the club its was like 11pm i had on my hater blockers an the bouncer dude wouldnt let me in he was like you cant wear those in here im like wtf?

Alright so i said i would take them off an put them in my pocket...still not good enough so i walked to the back of the line an gave them to a friend of mine. An went back up to the dude an i was like i got rid of them but he was all like no you didnt, i didnt even see you leave the building who did you give them too?

I was like man i dont have any shades we argued for like 5 min i kept tellin the guy search me i dont have them so he finally let me in.

Anyway at 2am when we were leaving i walked right past the guy an raised my hands like "whats up" what are you gonna do now? Then i walked to the car an this van full of chicks almost hit me an my friend, so we started talking **** to them then started talkin to them ne way it ended up with me making out with the chick in the passenger who i only just met for 2 min.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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