"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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summer situation advice?

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I'm going to try to keep this as short as possible.

2nd Semester in college, I started hooking up with a girl from my school. She's probably a 9 looks wise, but has a great personality. She's fun, outgoing, and never repetetive or boring.

More over, she's a geniuine woman who loves to challenge men like me. We are both 19 going on 20, and have kissed/played around maybe 6 or 7 times, but have never had sex. Now I'm a pretty good looking guy who has gotten plenty of tail, but for some I found it hard making the move so soon with this girl. Eventually, she told me that we should maybe just be friends for awhile since we were still Freshman and should have fun.

Anyways, towards the end of school I started seeing other girls and this got her extremely jealous. This resulted in her flinging herself at me several times, to which I rejected all but once. She confessed in a phone call to me that she still has feelings for me and her reason for telling me she just wanted to be friends was her being young and dumb.

So now we go into the summer, both of us feeling like we want more of eachother, but we live over 2 hours away. I feel like I should keep in touch, but not too much to turn into a long distance friend. I want things to be fresh when we return to school, so maybe we can hop into something right away and make it feel new. Am I playing my cards right?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Sounds good

You got delt a pair of aces bud, and you played them fantastically.

As for the summer thing, it's not too big of a deal. Just don't see or talk to her too much, call her every now and then, see how she's doing, then say you have to go. And maybe every now and then, if she lives like 2 hours away, MEET HALFWAY! find somewhere fun to meet at thats about at the halfway point of where you both live. Just don't see her or talk to her that often to keep things from getting old and boring. Stay new, stay exciting, and you'll be fine.
 

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I guess my real question is, do you think 2 months is enough time to lose interest over someone if you're not talking much?
 
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