"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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What's up DJs?

It's been a while since I've done some cold approaching, I broke up with my very hot GF and the summer is coming, so it's time to get out there and live. Who's down for a 8 week bootcamp starting later this week.:rockon:
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I'm working ridiculous shifts at this point in my life so I won't formally join in but I'll try to read the required readings when I have a spare moment to myself.
 

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Glad to see some interest guys! I thought I'd have to do this alone. I'll post the overview and guidelines soon.

Zodiac, if you can find 3-5 hours a week, you should be fine. I did the bootcamp a few years ago, it took more time than planned, but the rewards are worth it.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I just need to get rid of this fear of rejection and caring what other people think of me. Once I get rid of those two fears I'm fvckin golden!

But I'm definitely willing to challenge myself.
 

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the dj bootcamp? week 1 being the same as the newbie challenge

sounds easy, when I went out to try it I just pussied out.

But seeing as others sre doing it at the same time I may as well give it a shot
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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OK DJs, here's the team:

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Mr_Stinky
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Sweet James Jones
youngmack
Eternal_water
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Now read the Overview and Procedures on the original thread: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=12802

Here are the rules:

1. We start this Friday, the 1st of June. You have exactly 7 days to complete the exercises, which means you have to post your results by next Thursday night. Whoever does not update by Thursday night (US eastern time) cannot move forward. I must say it seems much easier than it is, but of course depends on where you are at the moment. It is your responsibility to grab your balls and do the exercises, no matter what.

2. We'll keep this thread for all 8 weeks, no need to start new ones for each week.

3. Be honest with your results, it's for your own good that you read the material and complete the exercises. There are no excuses like work, school projects, etc. If you feel that you won't be able to complete a week's exercise, post on this thread, we'll do our best to help and encourage.

4. Have fun! :woo:

Are you ready??????

Let's each post our motivation and make a statement of commitment, so that when times get hard, we can look back and remind ourselves what the reasons were.
 

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Impact: Statement of Commitment

I've been around for awhile, and am not an AFC. Recently, I broke up with my girl, as somehow I feel there's much more to life than this. For me it's not just about getting girls, it's more about getting used to being assertive, confident and getting out of my comfort zone, breaking limits and feeling alive in every moment. Now, even with a 40hr+ job, I commit to doing everything in my power to complete this bootcamp, as I am sure I'll be a completely different person after 8 weeks, much more attractive, friendly, confident and alive.
 

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"It is a choice, that each of us must face: to remain ordinary, pathetic, beat-down, coasting through a miserable existence, like sheep herded by fate - or you can take control of your own destiny and join us, releasing the caged wolf you have inside. Within the fabric of this world, every life hangs by a thread. We are that thread - a fraternity of DJs with the weapons of fate. This is the decision that lies before you now: the sheep, or the wolf. The choice is yours." - adopted from Wanted
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Week #1 - Developing / Conveying Confidence

Posted: http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum1/HTML/014030.html

We all know that confidence is king when it comes to getting girls, and just about everything else in life... but how the heck do we become confident, and equally importantly, how do we convey confidence?

Well, besides some wonderful reading, exercises during this lesson include two, one-hour outings with the purpose of learning to establish and maintain eye contact (probably the #1 way to display confidence) plus saying a brief hello to 50 strangers (girls, guys, old, young... don't matter).

Expected time to complete reading and exercises: 5 - 10 Hours




the link isnt working... so the first week we have to make eye contact? or is the instructions in the link that dosent work?
 

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youngmack said:
the link isnt working... so the first week we have to make eye contact? or is the instructions in the link that dosent work?
Here's a link that works: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=13538

I will post the exact instructions with reading material and an updated list of participants on Thursday evening. Yes, in the first week you have to make eye contact during two outings each lasting one hour, and a second exercise is saying hi to 50 strangers. Easy, ha?
 

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Are you guys still in or what?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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