"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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What's up DJs?

It's been a while since I've done some cold approaching, I broke up with my very hot GF and the summer is coming, so it's time to get out there and live. Who's down for a 8 week bootcamp starting later this week.:rockon:
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I'm working ridiculous shifts at this point in my life so I won't formally join in but I'll try to read the required readings when I have a spare moment to myself.
 

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Glad to see some interest guys! I thought I'd have to do this alone. I'll post the overview and guidelines soon.

Zodiac, if you can find 3-5 hours a week, you should be fine. I did the bootcamp a few years ago, it took more time than planned, but the rewards are worth it.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I just need to get rid of this fear of rejection and caring what other people think of me. Once I get rid of those two fears I'm fvckin golden!

But I'm definitely willing to challenge myself.
 

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the dj bootcamp? week 1 being the same as the newbie challenge

sounds easy, when I went out to try it I just pussied out.

But seeing as others sre doing it at the same time I may as well give it a shot
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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OK DJs, here's the team:

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Mr_Stinky
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Sweet James Jones
youngmack
Eternal_water
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Now read the Overview and Procedures on the original thread: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=12802

Here are the rules:

1. We start this Friday, the 1st of June. You have exactly 7 days to complete the exercises, which means you have to post your results by next Thursday night. Whoever does not update by Thursday night (US eastern time) cannot move forward. I must say it seems much easier than it is, but of course depends on where you are at the moment. It is your responsibility to grab your balls and do the exercises, no matter what.

2. We'll keep this thread for all 8 weeks, no need to start new ones for each week.

3. Be honest with your results, it's for your own good that you read the material and complete the exercises. There are no excuses like work, school projects, etc. If you feel that you won't be able to complete a week's exercise, post on this thread, we'll do our best to help and encourage.

4. Have fun! :woo:

Are you ready??????

Let's each post our motivation and make a statement of commitment, so that when times get hard, we can look back and remind ourselves what the reasons were.
 

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Impact: Statement of Commitment

I've been around for awhile, and am not an AFC. Recently, I broke up with my girl, as somehow I feel there's much more to life than this. For me it's not just about getting girls, it's more about getting used to being assertive, confident and getting out of my comfort zone, breaking limits and feeling alive in every moment. Now, even with a 40hr+ job, I commit to doing everything in my power to complete this bootcamp, as I am sure I'll be a completely different person after 8 weeks, much more attractive, friendly, confident and alive.
 

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"It is a choice, that each of us must face: to remain ordinary, pathetic, beat-down, coasting through a miserable existence, like sheep herded by fate - or you can take control of your own destiny and join us, releasing the caged wolf you have inside. Within the fabric of this world, every life hangs by a thread. We are that thread - a fraternity of DJs with the weapons of fate. This is the decision that lies before you now: the sheep, or the wolf. The choice is yours." - adopted from Wanted
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Week #1 - Developing / Conveying Confidence

Posted: http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum1/HTML/014030.html

We all know that confidence is king when it comes to getting girls, and just about everything else in life... but how the heck do we become confident, and equally importantly, how do we convey confidence?

Well, besides some wonderful reading, exercises during this lesson include two, one-hour outings with the purpose of learning to establish and maintain eye contact (probably the #1 way to display confidence) plus saying a brief hello to 50 strangers (girls, guys, old, young... don't matter).

Expected time to complete reading and exercises: 5 - 10 Hours




the link isnt working... so the first week we have to make eye contact? or is the instructions in the link that dosent work?
 

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youngmack said:
the link isnt working... so the first week we have to make eye contact? or is the instructions in the link that dosent work?
Here's a link that works: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=13538

I will post the exact instructions with reading material and an updated list of participants on Thursday evening. Yes, in the first week you have to make eye contact during two outings each lasting one hour, and a second exercise is saying hi to 50 strangers. Easy, ha?
 

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Are you guys still in or what?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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