That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Cinamon said:My trains home are delayed because someone decided to kill themselves and walked in front of a train. Suicides gobup this time of year.
What would drive you to the point of suicide?
You need to be more sensitive to the feelings of others that my differ from your for many many reasons.. Life is not "fun" for most people on earth..:nono:Night Owl said:Personally, life is too much fun to kill yourself.
I would choose carbon monoxide cause you just fall asleep then die..no pain at all.. I used to think that gun shot was painless but then i saw a vid online of a man shoot himself and it was not painless at all .. He blasted a hole in his head and he was huffing and puffing and gargling violently for about 5 mins.. im sure he was in pain..:nervous: :nervous: :nervous:KontrollerX said:People that truly want to commit suicide use more final methods like hanging or guns especially.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I cant stand that. Here in USA recently people have been going on a killing spree before killing them selves. There were few high school/ college shooting sprees where 10-20 students died. There was also i guy who shot up a gym before killing himself because he couldnt get girls. I think thats very selfish and stupid. If you want to kill yourself , thats your choice, but why would u want to kill someone else too. Why destroy someone else life too.Noob said:i dont think i would ever commit suicide, if i ever would- id do it in a spectacular fashion, like some sort of Saw inspired contraption in my basement, or i would try to shoot the president or something like that, i certainly wouldnt waste my life by ending it in some lame ass way that no one will remember.
Haven't really given it much thought...are they still running the Gilmore girls? Or wait, is big still beautiful?Cinamon said:What would drive you to the point of suicide?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.