Dude you are missing the point. It's not about money or being cheaper it's that guys are taking chicks to coffee shops all the time now. I haven't spent more then 10 bucks on first dates in a couple of years now and I haven't been going to coffee shops.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Suggesting a coffee date\meetup a bad move?
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Well saidFrancisco d'Anconia said:
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I MAKE IT CLEAR TO HOS THAT THIS AINT A DATE.... I JUST WANY CHILL WITH YOU A MIN. AND GET TO KNOW YOU AND SEE IF YOU ARE COOL OR NOT... yup
Hey, maybe that's why armadon takes them hiking?
As for me, I'm not missing your point at all. I completely understand your point. But my questions still remain: what happens if she shows up and she's a psycho? What happens if she's misrepresented herself and weighs 50 pounds more? What if she turns out to be humorless and gives you a hard time? With a meet over coffee, you're out of there fast. With a hike planned, traveling to the hike area and back, you're stuck unless you dump her.
There's pros and cons to everything, and it's just that with the online thing, there's more pros to cons to set up a meet over coffee. And there's lots of women that feel the same way, rather than be stuck uncomfortably with some guy that turns out to be a creep.
As to your point, once mutual chemistry is known, interest is there on both sides and you actually like each other THEN you can move on to the more interesting hiking dates.
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Don't tell her "let me know", and don't waffle with "sometime". You're the man, you lead, and don't leave it up to her to decide. Tell her "meet me at x place at x time and we'll have coffee". If she's not free, suggest another time, but don't end up going through with her on every day, that's just lame and will make you look desperate. It might be useful to say you're busy on a day she suggests (even if you aren't), so you can define the when and where on your own terms.DJorBUST said:
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.