"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Sugestion for new section

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saigonheadache

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Dear mods, I really think a section called "Her mind (her world, brain, etc.) is a must on this site. A place where members could analyze and break down the way women think and their psychology in general. I'm surprised there isnt one yet.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Vincent

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1st off, mods don't create forum, thats up to allen

2nd off, thats the point of the bible and the discussion forum
 
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we could have so many diffrent forums like this, we could create 20 new ones, but all that would do is give us 20 unused forums and would mean that the average number of readers per forum falls which will degrade the quality of the forums.

if you wanted to re do the bible with a better contents page then im all for that!
 
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AFK Protector

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The whole point of DJing is to not care about what women or anyone for that matter, think of you as a person. Overanalyzing women is not good...cuz you'll be self-conscious of yourself and always thinkgin "omgwtf is she thinking i'm too loud omfg...damn i just **** my pants. .aww"

So, instead of creating a new section, I think...

THAT YOU SHOULD READ THE GODDAM BIBLE.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Heizen

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Analyzing a womans mind is the job for a PUA.

We are here to be Don Juans, not PUAs.
 
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