Powersurgeon
Don Juan
I had two jobs, lost one. I still have to pay alimony and mortgage. I'm a surgeon. Any advice of how to overcome getting fired?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Well, I live in Mexico, so in dollars would be $34,871.94/y before, $13,948.83/y now. $4,882.09/y alimony, $2789.75/y mortgage. The remaining is to survive.How much did you make? how much are you making now?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I thought of that at first, but according to my research trying that will be a waste of tume and money since women (legally) always have the last word about that.Can you get child support and alimony reduced, since your income is down?
That's because the upper class protect their incomes but flood the middle and lower class with foreign competition.Isn't it stupid that immigration laws apply to doctors? What country is going to benefit by keeping a doctor out?
I NEVER used to believe this kind of crap until 1-2 years ago. But seeing now just how low of a PoS our Government can be, consider this: Why keep a doctor out? Less doctors = a less healthy population leading to less people alive that the Government has to support on welfare/food stamps etc = more money for the Government.Isn't it stupid that immigration laws apply to doctors? What country is going to benefit by keeping a doctor out?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Can you just move to another country, such as the US? I know damn well you will demand a higher pay for that in the US, the healthcare system is booming right now.I had two jobs, lost one. I still have to pay alimony and mortgage. I'm a surgeon. Any advice of how to overcome getting fired?
Although not completely discarded is not that easy. The hard part would be repeating all my postgraduate education (6 years) because it has no validity in the US. (or in any first world country for that matter)Can you just move to another country, such as the US? I know damn well you will demand a higher pay for that in the US, the healthcare system is booming right now.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.