"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Sudden sternum pain on any chest exercise?

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even press ups.

I've never had any issues with chest exercises before, but a week ago on my very first set of bench press, my sternum was in quite some pain on every rep.
I abandoned the chest workout and did arms instead.

Its about 5 days later now and the pain is still there, even on a push up, I can sometimes notice it if I just stretch in a certain way.

I'm going to avoid all chest exercises for a few weeks and hope that sorts it out (and hopefully not lose any chest muscle).

Any of you had this kind of issue before?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Is it an inverted sternum?
And what's your age?
 

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I don't know what that is but I would say I have a normal sternum.

I'm a 25 year old fit male.
 

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Inverted means it is deeper than the rib cage.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Have no idea then. Inverteds can put pressure on organs and get pain in that area during strenuous excercise when under 30 or so.
 

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Best advice I can think to give: rest for a few days see if the pain/discomfort subsides.

If it continues after resting then make an appt. to see a doc.
Yes, I would suggest getting the bone and cartilage structure looked at professionally also if the muscular feeling pain does not ease with rest.
Consider getting a heart stress test also if pain persists.
 
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I didn't do any chest exercises since making the thread. The pain was still there if I moved a certain way or sneezed.
I was in the gym today and decided to try very low weights and work up to my normal amount if there was no pain.

No pain at the low weights, it was there at the high weights.

Then I discovered that by locking my abs as hard as I could throughout the bench press, the pain went away entirely.
So I can still bench press as long as I lock my abs as hard as possible during the movement.
 

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Sounds like the problem still exists then.
 

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Yes, but at least I don't have to lose chest muscle while the healing process takes place.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Sounds like it might be diaphragm related to me. It attaches close to sternum also. The ab tightening would lift it and take pressure off.
 

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Could be cartilage tear, could be an issue where the chest muscle connects to the sternum, hard to say...
 
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