Sudden end

[BDP]

About 4 weeks ago my gf of 2 years came over after work and when i asked if she was ok started crying and said she didnt think she loved me anymore and needed some space.. the next day i get a msg from her saying she didnt mean it, she does love me but isnt in love with me anymore and wants some time and space to think. obviously extremely shocked as this came out of absolutely no where i kept msging looking for answers and never got any. i got replies saying she didnt know what she was feeling and she was confused and again wants time. two weeks passed with minimal contact and she then came over and ended it for good asking to be best friends. i replied that i didnt think that could work as it would be unfair to me because i still had feelings and still didnt know what to make of it all. the main reason for the break up was that she had pretty much moved in with me on her own terms and we saw each other 24/7. Her friends had ditched her when we started seeing each other so i was pretty much her only good friend. about 2 weeks before she said she didnt love me she had started seeing these friends again and her reason for breaking up with me was she felt i was keeping her from them even though i repeatedly use to advise her to see her friends and family alot more so this kind of thing didnt happen but she always responded with i dont want to i just want to be with you. i persited in getting answers mainly to work out what the hell i did wrong but it just made her angry at me for annoying her and kind of pushed us both into getting annoyed at each other. about a week after we were at a party and when she saw me she cried and left because i did not talk to her. again leaving me extremely lost in what was happening. we didnt talk all week but a mutual friend was having a birthday out in the city that weekend and we ended up at the same place. i did not make any effort to talk to her but some of her friends ended up being real b**** towards me about it all. we have talked since through msgs and agreed that the fighting needs to stop and i told her im happy to be friends because im over her.(not sure if i am or not).
i am just looking for some advice, she seems completely disinterested in me and out of no where at all. i guess i would like to see if i could get her wanting me back again but not sure if its because i want to know she still has feelings or if its because i want something to happen. any tips or advice appreciated. BDP

 

[backseatjuan]

You see she cheated on you and then made it as if it was your fault. You don't need her anymore. Once a cheater, will cheat in the future. You and that girl are over. Find another girl and forget this stinky little wh0re. Don't call her, block her on facebook, if you see her ignore, if she calls hang up, if she texts, don't reply, if she crolls back and begs you to take her back slap her and tell her she disgusts you.

 

[DonJuanabe]

She might or might not have cheated, but if she didn't it's that she felt attracted to another guy at a much higher level than to you. 99% of the time there is another guy somewhere in the picture.

 

[Greasy Pig]

I always laugh about how these female fvcking sadists can suddenly have a change of feelings, break a guy's heart and then hold out the "friendship" card as if it's no big deal.
Then they have the absolute temerity to get all butthurt when that request is - quite reasonably - denied!
Fvck the bytch. She had her chance, now she gets to have her hamster run like crazy as she watches you move on with your life and become a truly high value man. A man she'll regret hurting and with whom she'll never have another chance unless he just needs somewhere to unload some jizz.
Unbelievable!
She breaks it off but you're the arsehole for not being her friend???? Please....

 

[VladPatton]

So far it looks like you are doing things right. Phuck her friends and all that bullshyt, they don't know what's going on behind your closed doors. I'm glad you denied the ridiculous friendship card. Go cold, tell her to grab her sh!t outta your place and let her live with her decision. It can be another guy or she is looking for greener pastures (for reasons you may never know).
In the mean time, be social, do NOT dwell on this, and taking her back would make you of less value in her eyes at this point, don't be THAT chump-diggity guy.

Good luck to ya.

 

[BDP]

thanks guys just so frustrating being dumped without any explanation and then being asked to be a friend. deffs wont be in a relationship again for a long time. cheers for the help BDP

 

[muscleman]

There was nothing sudden about it. She dumped you a long time ago (and now you're seeing the signs leading up to it, which is good), but just now told you about it. Learn from it and move on. Nothing in life is certain. When you realize that, everything becomes a lot easier to take in stride.

 

[bluenorther]

Like muscleman sez, it was totally premeditated. You just didn't notice the red flags.
Last time I got the "I need time" talk, I realized the premonitions I was having from weeks before were right on. What she really meant was "I need time to wind things down."
There wasn't another man, either, and there are guys dying to get with her.
I heard from a secret source that her friends gave her he11 for dumping me.
She wanted me to keep taking care of her horse, but I stopped that. She was turning downright nasty besides.

 

[DonJuanabe]

If your girl becomes nasty/mean it means she isn't afraid of losing you... which means she wants to lose you.