"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Sudden Drop in Confidence

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Hey guys,

I haven't been on here in a while, but I have decided to return for some help.

Lately, I have lost the drive to meet girls or get with them. I have pretty much become real lazy about approaching and flirting, which is the complete opposite of how I used to be. I can't put a finger on what it may be. I just got back from spring break and I had a great time, but I did not get with any girls. I was insecure during my trip and it held me back from approaching girls. I resorted to drinking heavy loads of alcohol to see if that would help, but it didn't. I have decided to stop drinking / smoking for a while and get my health back on par from all the binge drinking.

Have you guys felt like this before? I almost feel like I'm a different person and have lost all my game. I used to be the flirtatious fun guy to be around, but lately I've just been quiet and down if anything.

What are some good articles I can read again to get me back on track and regain my confidence? Any tips from those who have been in this situation before?

One important thing is that my standards have been so high ever since my last girlfriend. Every girl I have seen, I immediately compare with my ex-gf and they don't meet up to how she was. I don't know how to get rid of this habit.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I'm doing the same thing. I think it always comes back to finding those things that get your fires burning (working out, business, guitar, reading, writing, riding my horse, etc. are some of mine) and throwing yourself into them. When you stop caring about women, they start caring about you.
 
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