Broham said:
Fellas: If you are currently in a functional, stable LTR, post the reasons why you believe they have worked so far.
I'm in one.
I can trace back every "reason" back to one main underlying reason:
I don't need "her".
I say "" "her" because I don't need the "other half", the "ball and chain", etc. I don't need a relationship, much less one that sucks. Now, I like this chick. I like her around. She smells nice. She understands that.
BUT
She also understands that I don't
need her. So, any negativity she wants to conjur up, I don't need either. See? If she negatively affects my life, I'm going to cut that cancer out with a butter knife if I have to.
Perhaps I'm a bit extreme, perhaps not, but she is on "roommate" status. I moved her in (too early, imo) with me to help her out of a nasty position she was in. She's not on the lease, because that favor seriously needs to be lorded over her. She needs to bring half to the relationship, because, I function fine on my own.
A guy where she works got wind of her being "down to the wire" with coming up with her share of rent for the month. This guy told her, "Just give him a BJ when you get home." Later, when I showed up, she parroted what he said back to me, with him sitting right next to me. She rolled her eyes knowingly, because she knew how well that that would fly. I laughed, then I turned to the guy and laughed in his face...
V: *matter-of-factually* "I don't need to pay $325.ºº for a blºwjºb, buddy. I get them for free."
Dude:
V: "If I DID have to pay $325.ºº for 'a' blºwjºb, it would be 'a' bj from 8 different women, one for every night of the week, two on Sunday, and I would have an extra room in my apartment."
Dude: *looks at my gf* :nervous:
GF: :yawn:
See?
If she lasts a year, maybe I'll take her off "roommate" status... maybe.
From context in discussions between her and her mother, I gather that she STILL gets far more from our relationship than I do. ...or at least, that's the perception she has, and one that I will continue to let her have. See, I get paid $325 a month for a steady piece of ass.
It's generally accepted as truth around here that the person with the most power in a relationship is the one who needs the other the least. (Rollo Tomassi) After finding this site, and aligning my inner game, I realized that I never need any woman, and thus will always be the pillar of any relationsip I'm ever going to be in... as it should be, because I'm a
man.
speed dawg said:
BUT, remember you have to be compatible with a woman too. For it to work, you have to play the masculine role with a woman that fits you.
So true. Fortunately, this one really surprised me with how compatible she is. Now, whether it's faked because of high IL or real has yet to be seen. Hence the "roommate" status. She has two very calculated, very measureable hurdles to clear before I will be comfortable being "more serious".