"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Successful Approach

TheMaestro87

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Just made a quick approach on a new girl who caught my eye at work. Just introduced myself quick after not giving her much attention since the beginning of the night (we work 5 30 - 9, I'm at work now). Anyways, made some basic eye contact, nothing major then went up and introduced myself during the break. Talked to her about work (it's her first day) and how it is. Definitely came across as funny and outgoing. I told her I'd add her on facebook but I'm just going to get her number after work and not call her until next week Tuesday or something. Only reason I told her I'd add her on facebook was so I could ask the spelling of her name (I zoned out and missed it when she introduced herself). Anyways, just a little success story (so far), I'll have updates to come.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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TheMaestro87

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And got the number easy. Ended up adding her on facebook at the advice of a friend (he's a constant browser here). She has a boyfriend. Kinda sucks, but her sorority is next door so hopefully she introduces me to some of her sisters.
 

marinetti

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a sorority girl? dude, you've found the ultimate gatekeeper here.

congrats.
 

TheMaestro87

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What do you mean? I meet sorority girls everyday. I'm in college almost at the top of the fast growing fraternity on campus. I'll most likely be president next year.
 
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