"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Successes Forum Is Counter Productive

DeepBlue

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Note: I originally posted this in the Anything Else forum (in response to stuartSan's rant about the success forum) but then I realized I probably should have posted it here...


I think having a separate "successes" section is counter productive.

a) it vaguely suggests that the other sections are about failure

b) it takes some of the fun out of the other sections. It is good to unexpectedly come across an occasional success story now and then in the other sections. That makes the sections feel like a healthy balance of success and failure. Segregating the successes into a separate section is like taking all the chips out of a chocolate chip cookie. Neither the cookie, nor the pile of chips ends up as satisfying as they were to begin with.

It was a well intentioned idea though, and it has helped to demonstrate how good the sosuave forum arrangement was to begin with.

DeepBlue
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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De La Soul

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Originally posted by DeepBlue:

a) it vaguely suggests that the other sections are about failure

b) it takes some of the fun out of the other sections. It is good to unexpectedly come across an occasional success story now and then in the other sections. That makes the sections feel like a healthy balance of success and failure. Segregating the successes into a separate section is like taking all the chips out of a chocolate chip cookie. Neither the cookie, nor the pile of chips ends up as satisfying as they were to begin with.
DeepBlue
a) I strongly disagree. The other forums are places of learning and sharing advice. The Success stories forum is for sharing how people have put the advice into practice and with what results.

b) I agree

CONCLUSION: I don't think the Success Stories forum isn't necessary because we can simply post our success stories in pre-existing threads (we're its easier to find success stories for a given topic) i.e. if there is a thread about eye-contact you can post about how you used eye-contact well/poorly in that thread, it doesn't need its own forum.
 

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De La Soul wrote:
CONCLUSION: I don't think the Success Stories forum isn't necessary....



DeepBlue replies:

yadalayadalayadalayadalay [head spinning from double negatives]

I'm still trying to compute the outcome of what you meant there.
 

Kodak

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I think the Success Forum is a little unnecessary. The really good stories should get Archived, and the 'I got my first number' posts are nice to come across in Discussion.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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