"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Successes Forum Is Counter Productive

DeepBlue

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Note: I originally posted this in the Anything Else forum (in response to stuartSan's rant about the success forum) but then I realized I probably should have posted it here...


I think having a separate "successes" section is counter productive.

a) it vaguely suggests that the other sections are about failure

b) it takes some of the fun out of the other sections. It is good to unexpectedly come across an occasional success story now and then in the other sections. That makes the sections feel like a healthy balance of success and failure. Segregating the successes into a separate section is like taking all the chips out of a chocolate chip cookie. Neither the cookie, nor the pile of chips ends up as satisfying as they were to begin with.

It was a well intentioned idea though, and it has helped to demonstrate how good the sosuave forum arrangement was to begin with.

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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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De La Soul

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Originally posted by DeepBlue:

a) it vaguely suggests that the other sections are about failure

b) it takes some of the fun out of the other sections. It is good to unexpectedly come across an occasional success story now and then in the other sections. That makes the sections feel like a healthy balance of success and failure. Segregating the successes into a separate section is like taking all the chips out of a chocolate chip cookie. Neither the cookie, nor the pile of chips ends up as satisfying as they were to begin with.
DeepBlue
a) I strongly disagree. The other forums are places of learning and sharing advice. The Success stories forum is for sharing how people have put the advice into practice and with what results.

b) I agree

CONCLUSION: I don't think the Success Stories forum isn't necessary because we can simply post our success stories in pre-existing threads (we're its easier to find success stories for a given topic) i.e. if there is a thread about eye-contact you can post about how you used eye-contact well/poorly in that thread, it doesn't need its own forum.
 

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De La Soul wrote:
CONCLUSION: I don't think the Success Stories forum isn't necessary....



DeepBlue replies:

yadalayadalayadalayadalay [head spinning from double negatives]

I'm still trying to compute the outcome of what you meant there.
 

Kodak

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I think the Success Forum is a little unnecessary. The really good stories should get Archived, and the 'I got my first number' posts are nice to come across in Discussion.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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