Has anyone here ever been successful with a girl without making her laugh histerically? I'm no comedian, and my style of humor isn't shared by a whole lot of people. Is it possible to keep a girl interested that you don't make laugh all the time?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Success without being funny possible?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Marlimus
Senior Don Juan
You don't have to be Chris Rock, just don't let her get bored with you.
Alphathree
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Yeah. You don't have to make her "laugh" per se, you just have to keep her emotionally engaged.
If you lead your life and speak your thoughts freely, this will happen naturally.
I play a lot of physical games because I'm not really a comedian. You can make girls laugh in a lot of ways. If you're not laughing together, it's not because you're not a comedian, it's because something is frickin wrong. You're afraid to express your thoughts, afraid to make a move, something. Laugher should come naturally.
If you lead your life and speak your thoughts freely, this will happen naturally.
I play a lot of physical games because I'm not really a comedian. You can make girls laugh in a lot of ways. If you're not laughing together, it's not because you're not a comedian, it's because something is frickin wrong. You're afraid to express your thoughts, afraid to make a move, something. Laugher should come naturally.
Jukeboxhero
Senior Don Juan
Nope sorry man, Comedians, clowns and pranksters are the only guys that ever have any success with women! That's why all those athletes and action-oriented guys are always looking so desperate.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You don't have to be a comedian to score with chicks. Here's a lil' well-known secret: if a girl likes you, she'll usually find a reason to laugh at something you said, even if you're not trying to be funny. The reason they laugh is because being around you makes her feel good, and the way she expresses that good feeling you give her is to laugh.
With that said, always try to look for humor in everyday life. That way, when you tell stories to girls you can add funny insights that will make your stories more enjoyable.
With that said, always try to look for humor in everyday life. That way, when you tell stories to girls you can add funny insights that will make your stories more enjoyable.
h2o
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You don't have to be anything but yourself. If you are not naturally funny, then don't be a try-hard or attempt to fake a personality. Be comfortable in your own skin, and don't do anything to try to impress women...just enjoy yourself with them.
You'll get more women being whatever way/personality you were born to be. If every guy had to be a certain way to get girls, we would all be the same and the world would be a very boring place.
You'll get more women being whatever way/personality you were born to be. If every guy had to be a certain way to get girls, we would all be the same and the world would be a very boring place.
sparky1981
Don Juan
I don't think you need to be a comedian to be able to crack a couple of jokes or say something quick witted. Don't go out of your way to do it though and you should still do fine. Though I believe if you can get a chick smiling what ever way you do it, you are halfway home.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.