Has anyone here ever been successful with a girl without making her laugh histerically? I'm no comedian, and my style of humor isn't shared by a whole lot of people. Is it possible to keep a girl interested that you don't make laugh all the time?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Success without being funny possible?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Marlimus
Senior Don Juan
You don't have to be Chris Rock, just don't let her get bored with you.
Alphathree
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Yeah. You don't have to make her "laugh" per se, you just have to keep her emotionally engaged.
If you lead your life and speak your thoughts freely, this will happen naturally.
I play a lot of physical games because I'm not really a comedian. You can make girls laugh in a lot of ways. If you're not laughing together, it's not because you're not a comedian, it's because something is frickin wrong. You're afraid to express your thoughts, afraid to make a move, something. Laugher should come naturally.
If you lead your life and speak your thoughts freely, this will happen naturally.
I play a lot of physical games because I'm not really a comedian. You can make girls laugh in a lot of ways. If you're not laughing together, it's not because you're not a comedian, it's because something is frickin wrong. You're afraid to express your thoughts, afraid to make a move, something. Laugher should come naturally.
Jukeboxhero
Senior Don Juan
Nope sorry man, Comedians, clowns and pranksters are the only guys that ever have any success with women! That's why all those athletes and action-oriented guys are always looking so desperate.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You don't have to be a comedian to score with chicks. Here's a lil' well-known secret: if a girl likes you, she'll usually find a reason to laugh at something you said, even if you're not trying to be funny. The reason they laugh is because being around you makes her feel good, and the way she expresses that good feeling you give her is to laugh.
With that said, always try to look for humor in everyday life. That way, when you tell stories to girls you can add funny insights that will make your stories more enjoyable.
With that said, always try to look for humor in everyday life. That way, when you tell stories to girls you can add funny insights that will make your stories more enjoyable.
h2o
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You don't have to be anything but yourself. If you are not naturally funny, then don't be a try-hard or attempt to fake a personality. Be comfortable in your own skin, and don't do anything to try to impress women...just enjoy yourself with them.
You'll get more women being whatever way/personality you were born to be. If every guy had to be a certain way to get girls, we would all be the same and the world would be a very boring place.
You'll get more women being whatever way/personality you were born to be. If every guy had to be a certain way to get girls, we would all be the same and the world would be a very boring place.
sparky1981
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I don't think you need to be a comedian to be able to crack a couple of jokes or say something quick witted. Don't go out of your way to do it though and you should still do fine. Though I believe if you can get a chick smiling what ever way you do it, you are halfway home.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.