"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Success story

ccdeville

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Guys I have to give you a true story of success. I originally posted this topic a month ago after meeting this hottie at a party http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum1/HTML/012184.html

I had decided to give up on this chick after she told me that she didn't want to get into any relationship, but she was perfectly willing to thrust me in the friendship zone because i'm "such a great guy" . I saw her again at another party, but I made sure I didn't make her the focus of my evening. I mingled with other women and had a good time just being myself. We spoke a little that night but by this time I was just content to know her as a casual aquaintance.

I decided to just call her last Sunday, just to see what was going on with her and not necessarily trying to seduce her. We had a good conversation, but I didn't realize how good it went. All of a sudden out of the blue she calls me on Friday and says she wants to come visit me. It was Midnight, so I knew what she had on her mind, even though she denied it. She lives in Connecticut I live in NY and when you have a girl willing to travel an hour to come see you, you know she's not coming over just to talk. Anyway, she arrives at my home at 2am, and It didn't take long, before she was out of her clothes and we were having sex. It was a terrific night.
This emphasises to me that it's not necessary to chase a woman all over the place to get what you want. Plant the seed, use your DJ skills and then let her come to you.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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T Dog

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What's more you learned a lesson.

Quote by ccdeville This emphasises to me that it's not necessary to chase a woman all over the place to get what you want. Plant the seed, use your DJ skills and then let her come to you.
 

northernpride

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Rack one up for c.c. glad to see that atleast one ex-Poison member is having some luck.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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RookieDJ

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Poison was PIMP in the 80's

Brett Michaels
CC DEville
Bobby Dall
Ricky Rockett

PIMP


LOL

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"If You dont Shoot...You Cant Score!"

"Just do it!"

"Word up, no rap no crap, you bore me...wanna grab my **** too lazy, hold it for me"
-Craig Mack
 

HBK

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good post , did things go any further after that?

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"Keep your friends close, but your enemies closer" ~ Godfather part II
 

ccdeville

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Originally posted by HBK:
good post , did things go any further after that?

Well the next day, she called me and we ended up having some serious phone sex! She asked me to play the guitar with my D**k!
 
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