"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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"success" story and questions

Awkward

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This day is a great day of the awkwardy history!

I was in this library, looking for a place to study. Then she came in, must have been a 6-7 something. I really liked her looks. Since I had never thought I could get any person above a 3-4.

So she looked a bookshelf and I come from her side and looked at the books too.

I started to talk a little with her, mainly about the book she was looking at and what books she liked and so fourth. She seemed to like me and I leaned into her space and I could see her pupils getting larger.

At last I asked her if she would like to join me for lunch and she agreed.

GREAT ! ! ! I though, she definatly seemed attracted to me. (She asked for my name and smiled a lot. Here pupils were widened and she had an open posture.)

Well just when we were about to walk into the resturant she began talking about her boyfriend that had come along to her journey, which we talked about. I thought "BOYFRIEND! whata**** do I do now?" I couldn't pull out now, not inside the resturant. So I thought, "hey whatahell, lets try a little NLP at her and see how she responds to it. She responded good, and was comfterable with me. (I made it look like we were very alike as persons, which we were. )

I decided to get the hell out of there when I had finished my lunch. She asked me then if I would like to join a club were she was going to. I said I was busy and got the hell out of there. I WANTED TO **** HER, NOT TO BE HER FRIEND! Did I do the right thing? I'm kind of angry at her. You don't go and have lunch with a complete stranger if you have a boyfriend! Do you think she was attracted to me? Should I have given her any compliments? I said she was nice once, embedded in a sentence. She talked most of the time and I listened mostly. She just talked and talked and talked. We didn't talk to much about me. Except when I said we were alike when she told something new about herself.

This was a success never-the-less cause it was my first approach. And it turned out to be fun.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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she had a boyfriend... she wasnt interested in you... it aint hard to understand
 

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I think she wanted you to join that club because she could tell you were interested and saw you as a good d!ck in a bottle prospect, not to mention an emotional tampon prospect. You did the right thing by getting out when you did.

Congrats on making a successful approach!! Go find a better girl to use your skills on!! :)

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The truth will set you free..... but first, it'll REALLY p!ss you off.

"You make a living by what you get. But you make a life by what you give." -- Winston Churchill

"It is not enough to have great qualities, we should also have the management of them." -- La Rochefoucauld
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Awkward

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Thanks princess


StuartScott:

Yeeh It would sure do, but it sounds kind of desperate to use in the first five minutes of conversation.
 

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Sometimes ditching a couple of girls helps with the confidence. Gives you the attitude that there are more options out there. NEXT!

Loke
 

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Originally posted by Princess-Spock:
To discourage flaming, I will NEVER return to a thread once I've posted there. To well-wishers; sorry!! To all others; :p
Damn, l never get tired of laughing of this
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Awkward, I can understand your anger, but I wonder if you are taking this too seriously. I'm not suggesting that you become her emotional tampon, but you may have missed an opportunity to DJ her friends, or really see what's up with this girl.

I would have asked for her phone number and then made a decision later on whether or not to call her. She could be good for social proof, too.

In terms of looking for a gf (in the short term), I agree with saying NEXT to the girl, but I don't think you should be mad at her for eating lunch with you. If a hottie met you at the library, and asked you out for lunch, I think that most of us would go, even if we had a gf.
 

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Well I do see my misstake. I'm a bit too serious, but you have to go to the extreme before you actually can learn something new. That's the way it is.


I bumped into her yesterday and got her number. As you said, she may have girlfriends


Thanks for the answer man.
 
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