MysteryWoman
Master Don Juan
HA HA HA HA!!! Dream on
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Subway pickups?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I make it a point to approach women wherever i am, and that includes trains and buses. I've pulled off some really great approaches there because there's always a way you can start up a conversation by mentioning something about the surroundings, or asking how far a stop is, etc.
This is especially easy if you're standing next to a group of girls, or girls/guys. This way you can listen in for a bit and once you know what you need, just jump in with some C&F. If done right, they won't mind you barging in and will want to get to know you!
One thing to watch out though is stops and the crowds they bring. Keep in mind that your target may have to get off at any time, or that you can get easily separated by crowds of people that enter at stops. I've had a few really promising pickups fvcked up that way! One way to avoid this is to find out how far she's got to go early on, and to keep your eyes open for people who may separate you.
This is especially easy if you're standing next to a group of girls, or girls/guys. This way you can listen in for a bit and once you know what you need, just jump in with some C&F. If done right, they won't mind you barging in and will want to get to know you!
One thing to watch out though is stops and the crowds they bring. Keep in mind that your target may have to get off at any time, or that you can get easily separated by crowds of people that enter at stops. I've had a few really promising pickups fvcked up that way! One way to avoid this is to find out how far she's got to go early on, and to keep your eyes open for people who may separate you.
manicmaximum
Don Juan
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whenever i'm on the subway/bus/whatever transit, you can tell everyone is SO bored and waiting for some kind of stimuli to entertain them
so what i'll usually do is try to at least get close to an HB or a group of girls. if it's one of those bus rides where it's just quiet and you can hear a pin drop, i'll EC her and say something along the lines of "dont you hate how boring these subway/bus rides are?" this usually works best for me after we've made a few of those awkward eye contact glances.
doesnt work all the time, some ppl will just actually be tired or whatever. but still, it's a good set up for a convo to introduce yourself and exchange names in the least.
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so what i'll usually do is try to at least get close to an HB or a group of girls. if it's one of those bus rides where it's just quiet and you can hear a pin drop, i'll EC her and say something along the lines of "dont you hate how boring these subway/bus rides are?" this usually works best for me after we've made a few of those awkward eye contact glances.
doesnt work all the time, some ppl will just actually be tired or whatever. but still, it's a good set up for a convo to introduce yourself and exchange names in the least.
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Life-Trainee
Master Don Juan
Wow, i was about to post a similar post. How do you increase approach success with subway regulars? There's a cute chick that gets on at the same stop as I when I commute to work. Yesterday I wanted to sit next to her on the subway but some old fart beat me to it. Btw, I don't care if I look desperate, subway is the most boring part of my day. I have ECed her and smiled at her previously at the T stop.
Don Juanabbe
Master Don Juan
I get a lot of IOIs on the subway, everyday, but it's hard to guage, as women are wary enough in the city, much less the subway.
I think it's a classic case of really making sure there is interest there, I have struck up conversations with women who obviously couldn't keep their eyes off of me, but never number closed. I recall a couple of times women opening me up on the subway, so it can be done I'm sure, but it's not a daily occurance or anything.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Pugsley_f5
Senior Don Juan
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Hows this for a subway pickup?
Her: Would you like pickles on that?
Me: No but how bout you give me your number and we'll call it even...
Her: Sure
LOL now thats a subway pickup jared could do!!!
Her: Would you like pickles on that?
Me: No but how bout you give me your number and we'll call it even...
Her: Sure
LOL now thats a subway pickup jared could do!!!