Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Subtle Hinting?

LonelyGuy2k4

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There's this girl that I talk to over the internet from time to time. We're are somewhat friends but we don't do a lot of stuff together. I liked her in the past and she knows that I liked her because I told her (bad mistake, I know). Well, a couple days ago we talked about valentine's day and whether if we got anyone special on the side. She said that she doesn't have anyone. Not because she is picky, but because she isn't looking for one. So I told her "jokingly" that if I have see a decent guy out there I'll tell her. She then responded by laughing and telling me that it would be unfair for him because she doesn't have a lot of time. I was puzzled at her statement and was wondering if she was trying to tell me something. I could be looking too much into this but I would just like someone else's opinion.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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diablo

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How far away does this girl live? Have you ever met her off of the computer? Have you seen her picture?

Also, it sounds to me like she saw though what you were saying and isn't interested - if a girl likes someone, she makes time for them. You see this in the beginning of many relationships; the girl seems to have a boring life because she's opening it up to you. It's only when she doesn't like you anymore that she suddenly becomes "so busy".
 

LonelyGuy2k4

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I think the way I was writing was misleading. We know eachother from highschool but didn't really get that close. But, I usually chat with her on the internet here and there. But, yah I guess that if she was interested she would become more available. The weird thing is that I said that I would take her out this weekend for valentine's day and she agreed.
 

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Subtle this one chick i talked to every now and then wasnt subtle at all lol, i hadnt seen her in awhile we talk and shes all umm why dont you come to day school instead of morning i was like why?

She goes cause i broke up with my b/f i get the idea but i dont really care lol, so we say bye then i see her again like 2 weeks later same ****. This time she goes you really need to go to day school im like its not gonna happen i got a job already she goes well why dont you give me a call and gives me her number this chick really wanted me. Shes dating sum guy and she tells me ill never be his girlfriend he wants me too though she even blew him off to stand with me outside rofl.

Yea well anyway thats what happen to me what was this thread about again.
 

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Originally posted by LonelyGuy2k4
She said that she doesn't have anyone...because she isn't looking for [a boyfriend]. So I told her "jokingly" that if I have see a decent guy out there I'll tell her. She then responded by telling me that .... she doesn't have a lot of time.

Nothing subtle about this one - she doesn't want to hook up with you. She will make time if she does. At the moment you are just stroking her ego by chatting with her cos she knows you are into her.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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LonelyGuy2k4

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So does that mean that her agreeing to go out this weekend means nothing? Damn, girls are so confusing...haha.
 
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