Subtle Flirting

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We know that one of the ways to keep your partner loyal is to be desirable to other women. The fact is that women's natural hypergamy means they want exclusive access to attractive men who have been pre-screened by other women.

When you're with your girlfriend, you actually have to flirt subtly with other girls, and those girls need to flirt back with you in front of her (without making it completely obvious; remember to be subtle).

A woman needs to know that she has managed to acquire a mate whom other women desire; she needs to feel the urge to protect her bond, fearing that her partner will be 'stolen' by someone else. She needs to know and feel that you can easily replace her if she doesn't meet your standards.

To convey that you are still desirable and desired by other women while maintaining respect for your partner, which are your favourite ways you do subtle flirting with other women?
 

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We know that one of the ways to keep your partner loyal is to be desirable to other women. The fact is that women's natural hypergamy means they want exclusive access to attractive men who have been pre-screened by other women.

When you're with your girlfriend, you actually have to flirt subtly with other girls, and those girls need to flirt back with you in front of her (without making it completely obvious; remember to be subtle).

A woman needs to know that she has managed to acquire a mate whom other women desire; she needs to feel the urge to protect her bond, fearing that her partner will be 'stolen' by someone else. She needs to know and feel that you can easily replace her if she doesn't meet your standards.

To convey that you are still desirable and desired by other women while maintaining respect for your partner, which are your favourite ways you do subtle flirting with other women?
This is actually terrible advice. No relationship is going to survive one party actively flirting with others. And women are far more cued in to behavior than men, and your woman will pick up on your ‘subtle’ flirting.
Also, if your flirting fails, you’ll look like a fool or worse in front of your woman.

The only way this works is if the girl 100% initiates flirting with you.

But let’s be frank. If girls initiate flirting with you, you already are desirable. And your woman already knows it.

Having a girl flirt with you in front of your woman is a nice little perk. But it’s not something planned for or worked for. It just happens.
 

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To convey that you are still desirable and desired by other women while maintaining respect for your partner, which are your favourite ways you do subtle flirting with other women?
You don't have to flirt or even be a social butterfly. Other women just have to flirt with you. When you are desirable, women will flirt with you, regardless whether you are with your girlfriend or not.
 

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Lolz dudes on here ^^ thinking Italian Women are going to initiate flirting... :rofl:

For real though OP, just tell your woman/plate you're visiting another country, that should be enough to do it

Lol
 
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What do you do if you're in an LTR and find yourself in a situation where you're with your wife and another woman who desires you, shows signs of interest, and flirts with you? It would be awesome to know how would you act, to correctly show "feedback" to both women: your GF and the other interested woman
 

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What do you do if you're in an LTR and find yourself in a situation where you're with your wife and another woman who desires you, shows signs of interest, and flirts with you? It would be awesome to know how would you act, to correctly show "feedback" to both women: your GF and the other interested woman
Just act friendly. Your LTR will shut her down.

Example. A few months ago I was sent by work to SoCal. At one of the desert communities. They let me bring the GF. On the flight down, the flight attendant, a cute redhead. was passing out coffee. She stopped at my row (I sat in the aisle seat).
She said ‘Oh I overheard you’re on a business trip. I have an overnight layover in town. I’m wondering what fun things are there to do?’. She went on a bit. I started to tell her a few fun things to do. My GF suddenly growled at her; ‘Those people over there are waiting for their coffee!’. That ended that.
 

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Example. A few months ago I was sent by work to SoCal. At one of the desert communities. They let me bring the GF. On the flight down, the flight attendant, a cute redhead. was passing out coffee. She stopped at my row (I sat in the aisle seat).
She said ‘Oh I overheard you’re on a business trip. I have an overnight layover in town. I’m wondering what fun things are there to do?’. She went on a bit. I started to tell her a few fun things to do.
I'm sure that didn't happen. :rolleyes: C'mon man!
 

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We know that one of the ways to keep your partner loyal is to be desirable to other women. The fact is that women's natural hypergamy means they want exclusive access to attractive men who have been pre-screened by other women.

When you're with your girlfriend, you actually have to flirt subtly with other girls, and those girls need to flirt back with you in front of her (without making it completely obvious; remember to be subtle).

A woman needs to know that she has managed to acquire a mate whom other women desire; she needs to feel the urge to protect her bond, fearing that her partner will be 'stolen' by someone else. She needs to know and feel that you can easily replace her if she doesn't meet your standards.

To convey that you are still desirable and desired by other women while maintaining respect for your partner, which are your favourite ways you do subtle flirting with other women?

I'd never flirt with other women if front of my girlfriend or even when she's not around.

ALTHOUGH I think shooting other women down in front of your girl can be to your advantage.

I do this sometimes, if like a cashier is being over friendly or whatever and you're getting vibes from othe a woman when out and about.

I'll kinda shoot it down, just keep the interaction cold, but polite and to the point. I also play dumb, pretend I'm completely oblivious to the woman that was into me.

No intention behind it , I simply don't want to be engaging that way with other women if I'm in a relationship.
 

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When you're with your girlfriend, you actually have to flirt subtly with other girls, and those girls need to flirt back with you in front of her (without making it completely obvious; remember to be subtle).
In my experience, guys don't know how to flirt subtly. Instead of "remember to be subtle", can you give an example of subtle flirting?
 

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What do you do if you're in an LTR and find yourself in a situation where you're with your wife and another woman who desires you, shows signs of interest, and flirts with you? It would be awesome to know how would you act, to correctly show "feedback" to both women: your GF and the other interested woman
An older guy I knew put it like this: "My wife doesn't care where I get my appetite, as long as I come home for dinner."

Can you flirt without making a move on a woman? I'm not convinced most guys can do this. Personally, I think a guy could stand right next to me, and wouldn't exactly know how I was flirting. Women speak in a high-context language that most men just don't pick up on.

The main flirting I see is making sexual comments, complementing a woman physically, laughing too much (this one is a judgement call), or touching. If you're responding with things like that, your wife/partner is definitely going to pick up on it.
 

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An older guy I knew put it like this: "My wife doesn't care where I get my appetite, as long as I come home for dinner."

Can you flirt without making a move on a woman? I'm not convinced most guys can do this. Personally, I think a guy could stand right next to me, and wouldn't exactly know how I was flirting. Women speak in a high-context language that most men just don't pick up on.

The main flirting I see is making sexual comments, complementing a woman physically, laughing too much (this one is a judgement call), or touching. If you're responding with things like that, your wife/partner is definitely going to pick up on it.
I think there is a lot of truth in this. I don't think I've ever outwardly flirted with any women.

But the subtle flirting I think is on another level. I must admit if I'm attracted to a women and I'm interested in her, the interaction/ conversation I'm picturing her naked, having sex with her.

It's hard to explain. Even though conversations can be so mundane, they are so sexually charged.

Obviously if she doesn't mind **** me back , I'll switch it off and just have a normal interaction.

I'll also switch it off if it starts happening and I feel it's not really appropriate, as in a women in front of her boyfriend, in a relationship, clients e.t.c.

It's not a conscious something just something that happens naturally.
 
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